If you have to ask it's not time

Seriously, if you have to ask it's not time

Call me old fashioned, but I don't want to end up with a string of sexual partners in my life trying to find"Mr. right", but that is exactly what people end up doing...... While most of us haven't been perfect...., I've seen what it does to people to have their heart broken many times, especially women......It shatters trust, and makes people bitter..... It really boils down to using people for our own purposes, and getting rid of them when they no longer suit our fancy... Not the way it was intended to be......

I've enjoyed reading the posts for this discussion...Lots of depth and we are hearing from both of the sexes... men and women..... Awesome.....

Interesting discussion here. Lots of opinions and lots of good advice. I tend to go along with those who saythat it has to be talked about. While I'd like it if I could "just know", I don't have a great deal of faith that he would ALSO just know. I think there are too many wives, husbands, and lovers who thought they were in an exclusive relationship and found out that they were one of many. I've gone round and round with myself about the idea of dating more than one person at a time (especially considering the sex angle). While I don't consider sex a recreational activity and don't consider it an assumed part of dating, I also don't want to (at least yet) eliminate it from the realms of possibility. If you date more than one person at a time (even if dating does not include the possibilty of sex), you cannot concentrate and give a fair trial to any one of the 3--or so it seems to me. On the other hand, if you're dating one person at a time then that person has to either reveal themselves quickly or you have to be very patient and plan to take quite a long time to find "the one". So far I've been living with the "go out on friends-only dates with one at a time" idea. I may be too old to remember what sex *is* before I find "the one" who also believes I am "the one" and wants both exclusivity and a relationship.

Oops not sure where I got that 3 number. Did someone mention 3 or was that just me picking random numbers?

Yes, but on the guy side, please do not ask me to be physically intimate with you, or seduce me if you don't want to see me exclusively. i am a girl...a bit thick...and I think that you care for me and see a future developing. Dont use me or send mixed messages...or tell me early cute text flirty email that you intend to move the relationship along physically, but aren't sure about the rest...then I can make my own choices and responses.

Thnaks for the help. I appericate yoru help and I agree with it.

being married once then dating again was hard. i did see that people are different back when i was married. i found out dating is more like a way to feel each other out, especially the first 5 dates. it seems when one or both ask to make time for each other in advance is a step closer to seehow there feelings are between them. At that time i feel is the best to ask each other what they look for in life or something that applies to dating and find out each others feelings on the subject. Then at that time you can decide if this is the person you would want to step closer too and makeeach otherexclusive for dating. If not be discrete and let that person know who had fun and rather be just friends, atleast you do not waiste each others time or go further into the relationshipunder fulse pretences.

How can you be cheating on guys you have not even met? Just chatted with online?