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AfterSchock is offline AfterSchock Post #1  February 2,2008, 5:22pm
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Now i know why most older women dont care for younger guys. but say if you're really mature for your age and you like being with older women, whats the best way of going around about that. how do you get them to pay attention to you? and then once you get there attention, how do you keep it?
 
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Hi AfterSchock - It's strange that you should say that because I mostly find that guys don't like older women! I have no problems with younger guys - I'm 39 & my profile "age range" for matches is 32-44. The last long term relationship I had was with a guy who was 8 years younger than me. I'm not at all "ageist", it's more the mindset of the person I am with that counts. I'd be be surprised if you can't find an older woman who is interested in you! Good luck!
 
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Well have to wait and see wont we.
 
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Hey, I'm not sure from your first message whether you have someone specific in mind that you are hoping to pursue - if you do, please keep us updated on how it goes! if you want my 2 cents worth, I'm always much more flattered than normal when a younger guy shows interest in me - it takes someone who is confident and comfortable with himself to see beyond a number & see the person for who she is, & to not simply rule-out a girl just based on her age.
 
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Semper fi, Marine! I spent about five years of my life on The Rock.

As for your question, I think there might be an element of maturity an "older woman" needs, especially if you're 21. If you can catch her eye, I'm sure she'd be flattered by your interest.

Hmm, I see this pretty much seconds what Red Sox Girl has already stated.
 
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No I really dont have any one specific in mind. I really think that its kind of the Marine Corps fault me getting in to older women. Younger girls cant really handle a military relationship thats why my wife left me cause I was never home and ive spent the last two years of my life on the rock (Okinawa, Japan). just worried how things are going to go for me when i transfer to Camp Lejeune here in the next two months
 
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AfterSchock, wrote :
Now i know why most older women dont care for younger guys. but say if you're really mature for your age and you like being with older women, whats the best way of going around about that. how do you get them to pay attention to you? and then once you get there attention, how do you keep it?
I'm and "older " woman. For some reason, younger men are the only guys that ever ask me out. I think it's flattering. I enjoy spending time with them. But I find that they never actually want to have a relationship with me.

So, if you are actually interested in an older woman, just take a chance, be honest andbe yourself.
 
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I quess in my opinions, if they are to much younger wewould not be able toenjoy retirement together. I would like a guy who is aroundthe same age orwithin a few years like 35-39 , I am 36(nearly 37). But since we need a 6 year minimum I have 34-42 here.
 
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Don't forget about maturity and generational differences. My ideal age range would be 38-48 but I just initiated communication with a 50 year old cuz ya never know.
 
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I have dated a lot of younger guys, of course I was a non-traditional student so was surrounded by them. It is usually a good arrangement because as you pointed out, a lot of younger girls are not mature enough to really deal with a relationship (popluar opinion would often say that women are mature much faster than boys and only boys can date younger...hogwash). Just as often its young women who are totally naive and need years before they can really be a stable partner. I have dated as much as 6 years younger than me....in my late 20's. I'd be uncomfortbale now at 30 going lower than 24/25. Maturity is the #1 issue I test for if a younger guys is interested in me. It usually works well because yougner men seem to be attracted to an independent woman who does not need the constant assurances that a younger one seems to...or the constant phone calls, etc. Younger men also seem to be less intimidated by successful women because they were raised in more equal schools with girls. The biggest thing to look out for is this....many older women will think you are looking for a "cougar" and only a sexual experience. If you can convince you are for real and want a relationship you will have better luck
 
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