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alexsmom0501 is offline alexsmom0501 Post #1  July 21,2008, 7:25pm
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How do you guys feel about matches who live with thier parents? I just had a match that I liked but I can't get past the fact that he lives with his parents. He is 35 never married and never had any children. I can understand staying with family in the case of divorce, being a single parent, job loss or illness. But this guy has none of those. Am I being shallow or would this bother you?
 
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Don't do it! Yes it would bother me. If a man can't show that he's independent prior to dating you, I can't imagine that he will be while he's dating you. Been there, done that. I can't do the mommy thing anymore. Men who live with mommy and daddy (other than the reasons listed) are NO's.
 
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Not something I would consider, short of taking care of a sick parent.
 
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If you're shallow then I am too. That would bother the heck out of me. At 35 he should have been independant at SOME point.
 
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I have a friendwho takes care of her mom-- it appears that she lives at home, but she is there so that she doesn't have to put her mom in assisted living.


Or he could be a tightwad, or a momma's boy... it's a gamble--haha!
 
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Has he ever lived on his own or been there the whole entire time?
 
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Maybe he's been banking for 20 years and has a butt load of money in the bank ready to make you a stay at home mom? Just a thought.
 
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CLOSE. That's a symptom of something else, unless he's taking care of a parent.
 
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Um, no.
 
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You should take these on a case by case analysis. There's a huge difference between living with your parents, and living at home. They are not the same.


I have a friend who is 33 and has NEVER lived away from home. She refuses to move out. Her family won't do anything about it, probably because they don't want her to move out either. I would avoid her like the plague and never date her. She has no independence and is still totally wholly dependent upon her parents.


I have another friend, same age, who lives WITH her mother. Despite the fact that this is the house she grew up in, she shares in everything in the house. She is free to do whatever she wants. Despite the parent/child relationship, she is a roommate that shares in the house expenses and helps maintain their mutual living space.


They sound similar, but one still lives at home, while the other lives with their parent. Vastly different.
 
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