Closing Matches

I had a match that listed his occupation as "human being" CLOSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm a harsh meanie, I know

I'll close for a few things up front...


1) Apperance is clearly unattractive to me. There's no point in making an effort if I'm not going to be interested.


2) Distance. I only have so much time and energy so I'm not going to chase to the other side of the state (even in Mass) for a first date that very likely will result in my being turned down anyway even if I am interested.


3) Education. I'm open minded but I want someone I can talk to and who has a brain.


4) Certain buzzwords that indicate she's looking for a high roller. I'm not into conspicuous consumption although I do a six figure income. I also have major obligations financially due to being a single custodial dad and I guarantee you that if she's big into being a country club member, driving a Mercedes, etc etc etc she's going to ditch me anyway so why bother.


5) Sometimes if she's too attractive. See 4) above, it falls into the same thing. Most of the time the knockouts are going to close me anyway so if it looks like she's a combination of model looks and super high class lifestyle why should I bother. In fact, I will often close them with a "No Chemistry" and/or "Based on Statements". It's refreshing sometimes to give them some of their own medicine because a lot of that kind of woman expects to be the one closing the guy and I think it drives them nuts to be closed especially by an unattractive looking guy like me because I've found that a lot of these women look at guys like me as someone who should be worshipping them but who are unworthy to be in their presence.


That doesn't mean that if she's attractive I'm going to close her; if she's an interesting professional who appears to be level headed and reasonable of course I'll give it a shot.

#5 - that's just mean. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-frown.gif[/img]

I hope you know that the lack of geek love on these boards makes me cry myself to sleep at nights. :P

Actually DLC's list reeks of a defeatist attitude. I mean - if you are going to date, why don't you try to go after the most awesome person you can find?

*gives you a kleenex*


Seriously, I dont mind too much if he lists video games ONCE but if he's passionate about video games, can't live without video games, spends his leisure time with video games...come on, now! We all have things we love but, obsession...thats a bit far for me! No room for me if all he does, thinks, breathesare video games.

so I may as well admit that there is no chemistry before they close me with the "other" or "no chem" which they almost certainly will before I even make contact.

But you don't KNOW. Do you? Seems to me like you are trying to spare your own feelings (when they shouldn't even get hurt to begin with).


The BEST part of dating is the parts where you DON'T KNOW what will happen. Where you put your best foot forward and hope for the best. Out of yourself, and your date. But that's just me looking through my "Glass Half-Full" lense.