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hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?
- July 21st, 2008, 04:44 pm
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hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?


shocked?
- July 21st, 2008, 04:48 pm
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shocked?
Only if you were serious.
- July 21st, 2008, 04:49 pm
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I would never ask the "gender roles" question. I just can't see that being interpreted in a good way.


While I don't see what's so touchy about THAT specific question, but I somewhat agree. I never understood why some of thosepre-built eH questions are available.Some of those questions I'd NEVER ask a woman I'm just getting to know. Call me old fasioned, but some of them really seem like quite the buzzkill or just waaaaaay too personal.


I think the most likely misinterpretation is for a woman to think "OMG, this guy wants a woman who will be barefoot and pregnant her whole life".


Guilty as charged.


Me too Lawyergirl.


hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?
LOL. I am sure you are not. I wouldn't mind being a stay at home mom at all. It's just that the gender role question makes me feel like he may not see meas anything more than a caretaker. It's not an instant close for me but I do have to know more about why he asked that question before meeting.
- July 21st, 2008, 04:51 pm
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I would never ask the "gender roles" question. I just can't see that being interpreted in a good way.


While I don't see what's so touchy about THAT specific question, but I somewhat agree. I never understood why some of thosepre-built eH questions are available.Some of those questions I'd NEVER ask a woman I'm just getting to know. Call me old fasioned, but some of them really seem like quite the buzzkill or just waaaaaay too personal.


I think the most likely misinterpretation is for a woman to think "OMG, this guy wants a woman who will be barefoot and pregnant her whole life".


Guilty as charged.


Me too Lawyergirl.


hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?
LOL. I am sure you are not. I wouldn't mind being a stay at home mom at all. It's just that the gender role question makes me feel like he may not see meas anything more than a caretaker. It's not an instant close for me but I do have to know more about why he asked that question before meeting.
- July 21st, 2008, 04:51 pm
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hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?
Actually, I think that Brian would even give you the option of leaving your shoes on....


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- July 21st, 2008, 04:55 pm
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hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?


Actually, I think that Brian would even give you the option of leaving your shoes on....


;-)
Let's compromise: flipflops or sandals.


Come on, I'm Irish & Catholic and proud of being both.
- July 21st, 2008, 05:04 pm
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hahaha- I am the only one who would actually LIKE to be barefoot and pregnant?


Actually, I think that Brian would even give you the option of leaving your shoes on....


;-)


Let's compromise: flipflops or sandals.


Come on, I'm Irish & Catholic and proud of being both.
TOO Funny.... what if I don't like shoes? Seriously though, I want a lot of kids and the traditional way of getting them requires being pregnant. And honestly, who wants to wear shoes when they are pregnant?


I think that "barefoot and pregnant" gets a bad rap. Honestly, if done the right way it can be awesome and not so "Dugger" like. Ya know what I mean?
- July 21st, 2008, 05:17 pm
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...some women are offended by the question even being asked! Why? I'm not telling you what to do...I just want to know your thoughts and future plans because if you want to be full-time "career woman" your whole life, I don't see any point in continuing. You can be whatever you want, that is just not what I am looking for (I won't do the daycare/latchkey-kid thing...the dual-income benefit is not worth it for me). It would just be nice if the issue were just stated plainly...





It is funny that you should bring up the traditional gender role question. I have only had one guy ask the traditional gender role question. I choose the answer that I like traditional gender roles and I always wondered what HE thought that meant (Did he picture a girl just waiting for a man to begin her life??). Itis not a very good questionfor an issuelike this that should be discussed. And I agree, that it should be discussed early in the dating stages.
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I know people do this (answering the question wondering what the other person 'hopes to hear' or WHY they are asking it). That is another problem! I want someone to just answer the question without pre-conceptions or over-thinking it. If you are "flexible" or "open to any possibility" then just say so, if you have firm ideas, then tell me what they are. I guess that any woman (or man, asI have been asked it multiple times too)who is offended or scared off by this probably isn't "right" anyway. Why should anyone be bothered by a simple question? Or ASSUME that is "must mean that he/she is XXXXX"? I wish people would JUST ANSWER THE QUESTION without reading anything into it or "playing to the audience."


When I ask that question, and it get asked right back to me by her (as often happens), I just answer it asI feel, even though I know she is probably asking it back to me to get an idea of why I asked her in the first place.


I had a match respond just today to this question with a non-answer worthy of a politician: She wrote something like "I don't know what traditional gender rolls (sic...I HATE that) mean for me but I would like to believe that chivalry isn't dead"


Wow, thanks, that was enlightening, huh?
- July 21st, 2008, 05:33 pm
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I don't discuss it with matches early onunless they bring it up first. HoweverI do feel that it is important to discuss these matters early in the relationship. Say, within the first 3-6 months of dating.I do not wantto spend a year dating someone that does not have similar goals in regards tochildren.I do alot of work with divorced couples. It amazing how many of them did not discuss the issues of carreers and children before they got married.


3-6 months?? I don't want to waste even 3-6 weeks dating someone who has vastly different views/plans on the childcare/career conundrum. What's the point? I don't want to "change" someone nor be changed to accomodate them. This is not a right or wrong thing...it is just a matter of 2 people having similar mindsets.


That is your view. I, however am very flexible in this situation. Honestly I wouldn't mind if I didn't have any more children at all.
We agree to disagree.I imagine this issue may not be as definitive for you since you are "take it or leave it" on possible having future kids. As I said, there are no rights or wrongs here...I just want to know how someone feels and how strongly they feel about it.
- July 21st, 2008, 05:36 pm
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