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blondzer is offline blondzer Post #1  July 20,2008, 12:49am
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[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do
 
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Welcome,


There isn't one of us who hasn't felt hurt and used or abused at one time or another so welcome to the real world of dating. If you continue to be yourself, eventually you will find women who will find you attractive.


When these women do appear, show interest in them . We all love to hear our own name spoken by another. You like it when someone shows interest in you no? It works and it is the simplist answer to your question.One other key? Be patient.


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[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do
At 20 years old your nutz haven't even dropped yet. wait a couple of years then try again.
 
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You have a long way to go my friend don’t make it so hard already.
You are no one’s “Dream guy” most people don’t have the first clue as to who or what they want especially at your age.
Their perception of reality is skewed by TV, movies and silly magazines.
You don’t need to look like a movie star to have dates look how nice they do married on Saturday divorced by next Tuesday.
You need to discover your inner beauty and learn to accept/love yourself then the whole world is open to you.
I wish someone had told me this when I was your age and (very important here) I had listened which I wouldn’t have just like you won’t but at least you can’t say no one told me.
 
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LawyerDan,178727 wrote :

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[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do


At 20 years old your nutz haven't even dropped yet. wait a couple of years then try again.
Wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning did ya? lol Hormones raging at twenty...maturitydoes have its benefits.
 
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LawyerDan,178727 wrote :

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[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do


At 20 years old your nutz haven't even dropped yet. wait a couple of years then try again.
You are always able to make me laugh!


aw, give this guy some real advice from all your experience...
 
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wingnpryr,178757 wrote :

LawyerDan,178727 wrote :


blondzer, wrote :


[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do


At 20 years old your nutz haven't even dropped yet. wait a couple of years then try again.


You are always able to make me laugh!


aw, give this guy some real advice from all your experience...
Maybe he needs so advice from the girls instead of from a bunch of old f@rts.
 
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LawyerDan,178727 wrote :


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[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do


At 20 years old your nutz haven't even dropped yet. wait a couple of years then try again.


Wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning did ya? lol Hormones raging at twenty...maturitydoes have its benefits.
Relax there mr grumpy. Look at the PO. 99 times out of 100 if the person has only 1 post and no photo then its not a real person. I'm guessing its an EH person getting paid to post things. Moreover, 20 year olds don't think this way. Lets just see if he ever responds back to this post or subsequent posts. Dennis, I recommend that you close out all matches that tell you they want a man with a sense of humor....the two of you wont be a match [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
 
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Okay once again let's talk about the thing no one talks about. I hate to be the negative person but I look at it more as the realist. (I'm 26 BTW) Everyone always talks about how you are going to find that right person and "don't give up" dont you get sick and tired of hearing that? No one talks about reality...NO ONE talks about how everyday someone dies not being married, no kids or a mix of the two categories.





My uncle died 2 months ago having a kid in Vietnam that we never met but never got married, no one talks about those that die everyday that never get to find that right one.



Why don't we talk about that people? Not uplifting? May not be but its reality like getting older we need to face it not everyone is gonna find that right person, if you do you are fortunate...its like winning the lottery..few win it MOST DON'T. Some get caught up with the idea of getting married young, and get into something they wish they didn't, get divorced and are still seeking.


But many never find it....





Whats the point of this? Look yourself in the mirror..tell yourself everyday "I am fine with who I am, I dont need any woman or anyone to make me happy. If its Gods will forme to be single the rest of my life so be it!!!"



Say this with a smile because you never know...you might end up single your whole life...dont count on finding someone because then you'll be miserable and depressed like everyone else that hasnt plus you may rush into something you may regret down the line!





If it happens it happens....if not GREAT!
 
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LawyerDan,178772 wrote :

DennisWisconsin,178756 wrote :


LawyerDan,178727 wrote :


blondzer, wrote :


[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-cool.gif[/img]well you see i am a 20 yr old male who has been hurt and used way to many times. i thought about giving up on the whole dating scene. but my friends tell me no. i have a lot of friends that are girls but none show intrest in me so how can i go about showing them that i am the "dream guy" as most girls say when they discribe a guy like me (personality wise). but my looks are not to great i think thats a problem so can u plz help me out and let me know what i can do


At 20 years old your nutz haven't even dropped yet. wait a couple of years then try again.


Wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning did ya? lol Hormones raging at twenty...maturitydoes have its benefits.


Relax there mr grumpy. Look at the PO. 99 times out of 100 if the person has only 1 post and no photo then its not a real person. I'm guessing its an EH person getting paid to post things. Moreover, 20 year olds don't think this way. Lets just see if he ever responds back to this post or subsequent posts. Dennis, I recommend that you close out all matches that tell you they want a man with a sense of humor....the two of you wont be a match [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-laughing.gif[/img]
Dan... I was kidding... I guess humor doesn't travel well by the written word sometimes... What is a PO?
 
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