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mas810 is offline mas810 Post #1  July 19,2008, 8:40pm
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I was just wondering if people really do respond to the questions you send out to them? (The five questions we're supposed to ask the people we are interested in.) So far I haven't received anything and its been a week. I sent the questions out to 10 guys. I guess I'm just nervous because I've never done this before. How long should you wait before you realize they aren't going to respond and how do you know when they were on the site last?

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Lace23 is offline Lace23 Post #2  July 19,2008, 8:56pm
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I usually give them 2 weeks but some people give them a month. I dont know if they have more success that way or not but it's been my personal experience that if they don't answer after 2 weeks they aren't going to. More often than not they'll be non-paying members which means they can't answer you, they probably don't even know you've sent the questions. So dont take it personally, and just keep on trying.
 
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Its pretty common to send out questions and not get responses. Its not you! Sometimes, the people you send to are not paying members so they can't reply. Unfortunately, there is no way to know who is paying and who isn't, so you take your chances.


For me, I usually wait between 10 days and two weeks. It is possible that the match is out of town or unable to check email for awhile, so giving him some time is generally a good idea. After that time, I usually close the person out, unless I'm really really interested, then I might send an ice-breaker or a nudge or just wait a bit longer. Some people on there boards will tell you they never close a match because there is no harm in keeping someone open. Its really all about your personal preference.


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mas810, wrote :

Hi, I was just wondering if people really do respond to the questions you send out to them? (The five questions we're supposed to ask the people we are interested in.) So far I haven't received anything and its been a week. I sent the questions out to 10 guys. I guess I'm just nervous because I've never done this before. How long should you wait before you realize they aren't going to respond and how do you know when they were on the site last? Thank you and good luck to everyone.
I wish there was a way to tell when they were last on or if they read your e-mail so you'd know. I usually give someone a couple of weeks if we haven't communicated very much. However, if we've reached the OC stage I'll give her a month and before closing I'll send a follow-up e-mail just to see where it's going.


I understand that all of us have busy lives and things happen, but some people make excuses that are pretty lame. All I ever ask from someone is honesty. It's wrong to keep people guessing for weeks and if I was you I'd give them a couple of weeks, but after that, hasta la vista, baby!
 
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flocondeneige,178473 wrote :

Its pretty common to send out questions and not get responses. Its not you! Sometimes, the people you send to are not paying members so they can't reply. Unfortunately, there is no way to know who is paying and who isn't, so you take your chances.
I thought you had to be a paying member to have a picture posted. Wouldn't that indicate they're a subscriber?


Also, I usually guess that anyone who's taken the time and trouble to fill out their profile in a meaningful and interesting way has also subscribed, or at least the odds are better, but I could be wrong.


I am only waiting a week. Already been through the 'he's not into you' business so my patience level might be a little short. I know that's not a good thing but it's where I'm at right now.
 
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For the non replying matches, I give them 1 month.

I also clean out my non-communicating matches after each "free communication" weekend.
 
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I wait 1 week after a non response unless we are in open communication and they tell me they are going to be out of town or if we are communicating in person [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-smile.gif[/img]
 
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mas810, wrote :

Hi, I was just wondering if people really do respond to the questions you send out to them? (The five questions we're supposed to ask the people we are interested in.) So far I haven't received anything and its been a week. I sent the questions out to 10 guys. I guess I'm just nervous because I've never done this before. How long should you wait before you realize they aren't going to respond and how do you know when they were on the site last? Thank you and good luck to everyone.
Mas:


First of all, I commend you for taking the bull by the horns and initiating. Please don't believe all you hear about "scaring guys off" by being bold. The only men "scared" by this are ones who you don't want or ones who didn't want you in the first place.


Secondly, expect that many will never respond because they are non-paying (we ALL hate this). Give everyone 2 weeks...that seems fair to me. Close those that do not get back you saying "my match never communicated". A REAL and good guy who likes what he sees and reads about you will think it sweet that you contacted him, believe me.
 
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Lace23,178463 wrote :

I usually give them 2 weeks but some people give them a month. I dont know if they have more success that way or not but it's been my personal experience that if they don't answer after 2 weeks they aren't going to. More often than not they'll be non-paying members which means they can't answer you, they probably don't even know you've sent the questions. So dont take it personally, and just keep on trying.
I agree. Two weeks to respond is plenty of time. The ones that don't have photos are usually the non-paying members and I think it sucks that EH does this. We've made the investment and they send us people who aren't paying and can't respond . . . what kind of a rip off is that?


I wouldn't worry too much. We've all experienced it.
 
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It is just the nature of the beast. You might have much more luck here on these advice boards actually. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img]
 
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