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Ladies, is your dating behavior scaring guys away? Check out what you shouldn't do or say on those first few dates.
- July 19th, 2008, 09:51 am
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eharmonyadvice, wrote :

Ladies, is your dating behavior scaring guys away? Check out what you shouldn't do or say on those first few dates.
I can add 5 more to the list:

1) "Celine Dion"-I once dated someone and worked with someone who used to listen to her CDs all of the time. I'd rather listen to polka music 24/7 while strapped in a chair and my mouth tied shut with duct tape. And I'm dead serious.

2) "That's a man, baby!"-I actually was matched once with a woman who looked like Meatloaf in drag. Needless to say, my response was something along the lines of "I would do anything for love, but I'd never do THAT!" Anytime I see something remotely resembling an Adam's apple on a woman or one that seems a bit too "mannish" for me, I'm out of there.

3) "The Clinger"-This is the woman who calls you when you're at work all of the time and says "Hey. What are you doing?" and you feel like saying "I'm working. What about you?" The woman that has to be with you 24/7 and can't do anything on her own or be independent. Don't get me wrong. I love the attention, but I also believe that a man and a woman need a break from each other once inawhile. It's not such a bad thing to miss someone sometimes.

4) "No Marriage, No Kids"-I once went out on a date with a woman who told me she was divorced and got out of an abusive marriage. She was in her late 30s and she proceeded to tell me, "You know, if I never get married again I'm okay with that. And if I never have a child, I'm okay with that." From that point the date went downhill right away because I want to find someone who wants to get married and have children. It made me very frustrated because eH matched us up and we were a mismatch right from the start.

5) "The Stalker"-This is a pretty obvious one and regrettably it's probably a more common occurrence than most of us would imagine.
- July 19th, 2008, 01:02 pm
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beatle juice....pretty sensible, especially the Celine Dion part. I mean, I am okay with Celine but I hear you.


I dont even feel like I need to read the article now. I like your add-on's here.


As for the lady that looked like meatloaf though...its really not her fault you know have some sympahty for those mannish ladies! Imagine how hard it is to be them!
- July 19th, 2008, 01:06 pm
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I agree with most of the article. It's simply just good common sense imo, but if you come to my house you will find wedding mags/books, but only for reference...starting a side business making specialty/wedding cakes.


You will not find stacks of those 6 inch thick wedding mags filled with nothing but dresses and more dresses...do any of you females actually buy those and daydream over them?!?
- July 19th, 2008, 02:28 pm
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I can't remember ever buying a wedding magazine or daydreaming about a wedding. I eloped!


And now, courtesy of my insomniac brain, a bit of silliness before I wander off to do something constructive.


5 Things To Say On a Really Bad First Date With a Guy You Want to Scare Away:


1) For my birthday, I want a Remington 870 12-gauge pump-action shotgun with a pistol grip. (This worked really well in Washington. Now that I'm in Mississippi, it might actually be a turn-on.)


2) Shhhh....I can't hear the voices in my head.


3) My psychiatrist says I'm almost ready to leave the halfway house.


4) My novel is 2036 pages long and it's all about the perfidy of men. I'll expect you to read it before our next date.


5) I'm really looking forward to our next date. I should be out in two years with time off for good behavior.


Now that I've got that out of my system...


- July 20th, 2008, 12:20 am
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LOL@ going bridal...well I think it;s every womans dream to want to be a bride and plan out a perfect wedding, that really happens that one time you do eventually get married (hoping it stays long enough, considering the rate of marriage shelf life is nowadays!)


But I guess you can see a point in how a man would get scared. Although, I find it a lil weird that guys would not expect that of a girl to begin with??


- July 20th, 2008, 09:08 am
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I always thought being one of the guys (actions wise, not looks wise) was a plus to many of my dates.
- July 20th, 2008, 10:12 am
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I have never bought a wedding magazine in my life. Not for my own wedding nor when I was a Catering Director/Wedding Planner.
- July 20th, 2008, 10:33 am
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japaneseblueeyes wrote :

I always thought being one of the guys (actions wise, not looks wise) was a plus to many of my dates.
My husband and all of his guy friends are/were attracted to the girl who was "one of the guys" in the group. In fact she's my ex's girlfriend after being hit on by every other guy in that group. So I think at least that part of the article may be wrong, fear not.
- July 20th, 2008, 10:35 am
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toothpulla wrote :

LOL@ going bridal...well I think it;s every womans dream to want to be a bride and plan out a perfect wedding, that really happens that one time you do eventually get married (hoping it stays long enough, considering the rate of marriage shelf life is nowadays!)


But I guess you can see a point in how a man would get scared. Although, I find it a lil weird that guys would not expect that of a girl to begin with??

I agree...it's part of the whole Cinderalla fantasy we start dreaming of from the moment we get old enough to understand the whole marriage/wedding concept. Weddings are so much work...it's a good thing to have some "prior" planning beforehand!


On the otherhand, I can see how it would definitely scare a man away! Scary to me is that I know this girl (she was about 20 at the time)that had all this stuff (pots, dishes, linens, furniture) saved up in another room in her house (lived with her parents)...and she didn't even have a boyfriend at the time. She is actually a great friend of mine...and she knew that I thought it was hilarious and a bit !
- July 21st, 2008, 07:43 am
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