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What is the biggest misconception you think that potential matches have about you?
 
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I have two I think.


They think I'm out of shape or lazy because I'm heavier than the average girl. In truth I exercise 5 or more times a week, generally more than 6 hours total with a variety of activies such as dancing and running and then on the weekend I hike etc. I put those hobbies in my profile but I think pictures speak louder than words.


The other one is that I'm looking for a daddy for my children. I don't mention them ANYWHERE else in my profile and I don't put pictures up of them but in "additional information" I do say that I have 2 children that I have 50/50 custody of but I'm not looking for an instant family or dad for them. I think people read the part where I say I have 2 children and stop cold. Despite having said they are willing to be matched with someone with children.
 
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What is the biggest misconception you think that potential matches have about you?
Okay, I guess I'll take a wack at it and this is not a double-entendre BTW. I personally would love to know why potential matches had me closed faster than a Madonna movie at the box-office. I suspect that some of them have me pegged as "sensitive man" with the stereotypes of me being this "metrosexual" type which couldn't be further from the truth. I love sports especially baseball and football. When I was a kid I would deliberately get dirty and used to love emulating my heroes like Pete Rose by diving in headfirst and getting my clothes dirty. This would drive my mom crazy, but I had fun.

I thought I would be a baseball player when I was a kid but when I was 10 years old I discovered music. My neighbor was this older guy that became like a big brother to me and he played guitar. He also used to teach me a lot about baseball and because of him I started to play guitar. A year later I learned the piano and to this day I play both totally by ear. I can't read music. I play by heart. And around this same time I discovered the music of The Beatles.

Many years later I became a fan of Audrey Hepburn and fell in love with the woman. I admire her so much for being an actress but mostly because of her humanitarian work with UNICEF. She inspired me to be more involved with charities and to create an organization called CARAVAN (Citizens Against Rape Assault & Violence in America Network). If anyone wants me to give them the website addresses for CARAVAN, please ask me and I'll be more than happy to give them to you.

I tend to be more of an observer than a talker and I've been on drives before where I won't say anything for a few minutes and the other person will ask, "Are you okay?" It's not that I'm not okay. I just love to take in life and to look at everything and everyone around me. Maybe that's because I came close to dying when I was a kid and perhaps I have a different perspective on life than some other people do. I'm grateful to be alive and for many of the things and people I have in my life than others might take for granted.


It's not that I don't like to talk, though. I love to engage in conversations on a myriad of subjects and one of my ways of breaking the ice with people I just meet is humor. I'll try to make them smile or laugh and hopefully not at me. If you were to come into my house you would see right away that I'm a huge movie and music fan. I also have a very clean house for the most part and I actually enjoy doing laundry. Now, as for cleaning, I don't mind doing it but I absolutely hate cleaning my bathrooms. So anyone who had this idea that I was Mr. Metrosexual Man who loved cleaning all of the time and watching "The Joy Luck Club" on weekends followed by "Sleepless In Seattle" would be sorely mistaken.


Most of the time I don't watch much tv and the tv I do watch is baseball during the summer. I will watch movies, though, and being a former Blockbuster manager I have quite an extensive knowledge of films.

I think the biggest misconception people have about me is that I'm a "sensitive man" which some people perceive as a weakness or stereotype you as being "metrosexual." Nothing could be further from the truth. If you don't believe me, talk to me on the phone. Come hang out with me. Get to know me first before judging me. I'm far from perfect, but I can be a fun person to hang out with if you give me a chance.
 
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Lace23,177462 wrote :

I have two I think.


They think I'm out of shape or lazy because I'm heavier than the average girl. In truth I exercise 5 or more times a week, generally more than 6 hours total with a variety of activies such as dancing and running and then on the weekend I hike etc. I put those hobbies in my profile but I think pictures speak louder than words.


The other one is that I'm looking for a daddy for my children. I don't mention them ANYWHERE else in my profile and I don't put pictures up of them but in "additional information" I do say that I have 2 children that I have 50/50 custody of but I'm not looking for an instant family or dad for them. I think people read the part where I say I have 2 children and stop cold. Despite having said they are willing to be matched with someone with children.
Just so you know, I have NEVER turned down a woman on eHarmony because she was heavier than the average girl. I'm sure that many women worry about posting pictures on here in fear that they'll be closed without the guy even attempting communication #1. I just want you to know that there are guys like me out there who aren't hung up on such superficial things. I'm sure there are men, in fact I know there are, who want to date supermodels and they're as bad as the women who want to date "real men." Those people are doomed to be disappointed and stuck on dating sites for a long time because they're superficial. Do they not know that these so-called "hotties" aren't going to look like that when they're 50, 60 years old?

Now having said that I will admit that physical features do matter and I'd be a liar if I said that I don't look at a woman's face and body, but if there's no personality there or the person is shallow, mean-spirited, or boring then she could look like Jessica Alba and I'd still not be interested.
 
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beatlejuice72,177491 wrote :

Lace23,177462 wrote :


I have two I think.


They think I'm out of shape or lazy because I'm heavier than the average girl. In truth I exercise 5 or more times a week, generally more than 6 hours total with a variety of activies such as dancing and running and then on the weekend I hike etc. I put those hobbies in my profile but I think pictures speak louder than words.


The other one is that I'm looking for a daddy for my children. I don't mention them ANYWHERE else in my profile and I don't put pictures up of them but in "additional information" I do say that I have 2 children that I have 50/50 custody of but I'm not looking for an instant family or dad for them. I think people read the part where I say I have 2 children and stop cold. Despite having said they are willing to be matched with someone with children.


Just so you know, I have NEVER turned down a woman on eHarmony because she was heavier than the average girl. I'm sure that many women worry about posting pictures on here in fear that they'll be closed without the guy even attempting communication #1. I just want you to know that there are guys like me out there who aren't hung up on such superficial things. I'm sure there are men, in fact I know there are, who want to date supermodels and they're as bad as the women who want to date "real men." Those people are doomed to be disappointed and stuck on dating sites for a long time because they're superficial. Do they not know that these so-called "hotties" aren't going to look like that when they're 50, 60 years old?

Now having said that I will admit that physical features do matter and I'd be a liar if I said that I don't look at a woman's face and body, but if there's no personality there or the person is shallow, mean-spirited, or boring then she could look like Jessica Alba and I'd still not be interested.
I know there are good guys out there who look beyond a simple body shot and read profiles etc. before closing out or starting a conversation. I just haven't met many of them yet. And I always want to say "Of all the things you think are wrong with me you pick something that I'm working on changing or that can be changed."


I live in Colorado so most men around here are into hiking, biking, camping etc. and I put pictures of myself out doing those things in my profile. If these men are really that active why not make it something we can do together and she what happens to weight then.


In any case, those aren't the men I'm looking for anyways. So it doesn't really sting too much since they are too superficial for my liking anyways.
 
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Lace23,177503 wrote :

beatlejuice72,177491 wrote :


Lace23,177462 wrote :


I have two I think.


They think I'm out of shape or lazy because I'm heavier than the average girl. In truth I exercise 5 or more times a week, generally more than 6 hours total with a variety of activies such as dancing and running and then on the weekend I hike etc. I put those hobbies in my profile but I think pictures speak louder than words.


The other one is that I'm looking for a daddy for my children. I don't mention them ANYWHERE else in my profile and I don't put pictures up of them but in "additional information" I do say that I have 2 children that I have 50/50 custody of but I'm not looking for an instant family or dad for them. I think people read the part where I say I have 2 children and stop cold. Despite having said they are willing to be matched with someone with children.


Just so you know, I have NEVER turned down a woman on eHarmony because she was heavier than the average girl. I'm sure that many women worry about posting pictures on here in fear that they'll be closed without the guy even attempting communication #1. I just want you to know that there are guys like me out there who aren't hung up on such superficial things. I'm sure there are men, in fact I know there are, who want to date supermodels and they're as bad as the women who want to date "real men." Those people are doomed to be disappointed and stuck on dating sites for a long time because they're superficial. Do they not know that these so-called "hotties" aren't going to look like that when they're 50, 60 years old?

Now having said that I will admit that physical features do matter and I'd be a liar if I said that I don't look at a woman's face and body, but if there's no personality there or the person is shallow, mean-spirited, or boring then she could look like Jessica Alba and I'd still not be interested.


I know there are good guys out there who look beyond a simple body shot and read profiles etc. before closing out or starting a conversation. I just haven't met many of them yet. And I always want to say "Of all the things you think are wrong with me you pick something that I'm working on changing or that can be changed."


I live in Colorado so most men around here are into hiking, biking, camping etc. and I put pictures of myself out doing those things in my profile. If these men are really that active why not make it something we can do together and she what happens to weight then.


In any case, those aren't the men I'm looking for anyways. So it doesn't really sting too much since they are too superficial for my liking anyways.
I agree with both your misconceptions...


There aren't many men like Beatlejuice.... One in a million this guy...


There are a few I have ran accross who are shocked at how active I am because they judge a book by it's cover.
 
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I personally prefer a woman with some meat on their bones. Women are supposed to have curves. At least, I think so.
 
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I can't think of any misconceptions that matches may have. I'm pretty much brutally honest.
 
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GaryZ,177510 wrote :

I personally prefer a woman with some meat on their bones. Women are supposed to have curves. At least, I think so.
Yes we are... and we are sexy... but most men who can see this are 3000 miles away.





California is slooking for rail thin... most of the time.
 
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fun4pooh,177516 wrote :

GaryZ,177510 wrote :


I personally prefer a woman with some meat on their bones. Women are supposed to have curves. At least, I think so.


Yes we are... and we are sexy... but most men who can see this are 3000 miles away.





California is slooking for rail thin... most of the time.
Anyone who can't see that you're beautiful from 3,000 feet away let alone 3,000 miles is not only blind but ignorant. I've had LASIK surgery so my eyesight is even better than it was before. I'm practically Bionic Man here. LOL. Trust me. You're sexy and so are the other women on this board. Well, MOST of them.
 
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