Wanted: Tall, Dark, Rich and Nice. Why Do Women Want It All?

Wanted: Tall, Dark, Rich and Nice. Why Do Women Want It All?

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Wanted: Tall, Dark, Rich and Nice. Why Do Women Want It All?


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Aussiegirl is offline Aussiegirl Post #1  January 30,2008, 11:57am
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Yep, this article is spot on. But I think the part about women wanting a guy with resources and ambition needs explanation. As a woman who wants to have children, I can't afford to marry a guy who is going to be an unstable provider. Ineed a man with ambition that matches my own. I'm prepared to give up my career and be a stay-at-home mother. But in order for that to happen, I have to be with a man who I can get behind to support and help his career progression. I have no patience for wishy washy guys who are content in menial jobs and spend their evenings at home doing inconsequential things. Now, all that said, I can easily see myself loving and supporting a man who while not the most prolific provider is still stable and passionate about something - such as a nonprofit cause. Women want a stable provider, but also a man who is passionate about something - whether it be his career, hishobbies, his family, his beliefs, etc. Something, anything - as long as it's of interest to you and you can ignite that same excitement in someone else.
 
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Do you really have to make a lot of money, be dazzlingly attractive and drive an expensive car to get the girl? Yes and no. See what science says about the laws of attraction.
 
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Aussiegirl,54092 wrote :
I'm prepared to give up my career and be a stay-at-home mother. ... snip.... Now, all that said, I can easily see myself loving and supporting a man who while not the most prolific provider is still stable and passionate about something - such as a nonprofit cause. Women want a stable provider, but also a man who is passionate about something - whether it be his career, hishobbies, his family, his beliefs, etc. Something, anything - as long as it's of interest to you and you can ignite that same excitement in someone else.
What if the man was able and passionate about raising children? What if he took care of the bills, preparred and shopped for food, and kept the house clean, drove the kids too and from school. What if he supported your work efforts? How many women would go for such a man? My guess is very few because while there is a desire for equality, there are too many other elements at play to accept such an audacious role-reversal for men and women. Maybe in the future... but right now there are few relationships like this. It seems to me that very successful women ... at leat the ones that post their ads on dating sites... want equally determined and successful men. For equality to fully take hold, I feel they need to look for supportive men. And I'll conceeed that if he's good looking, tall, dark, and hansome he most likely isn't going to want to take care of the kids... but what if he has a couple of those features. Would you be willing to give the relationship a try?
 
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Interesting article!

I've actually heard that women become increasingly attracted to more masculine men as they become more fertile, even if they are already with a provider-type. It's like a (supressable) biological drive to cheat in order to have a child with a man with the best genes, without the provider type realizing.

Ever since reading that I've been terrified of something like that happening!
 
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This article hates spaghetti! Pasta is great date food--it's a fantastic dish to cook for your beau in the first three months of dating, especially if you know how to make a nice, rich, homemade tomato or pesto sauce. Didn't you people ever see "The Lady and the Tramp?" Molto romantico!

Aside from my aside, the article had some good advice. But what happens when the suitors around you seem more confident or well-stocked with cash than you are? Is there something we can do to gain the advantage when we're not merely competing against our own insecurities, but have flesh-and-blood rivals (with better cars)?
 
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Okay, I must be an odd-ball or maybe my genetics have been pushed out of the way for the sake of pure practicality! Either way, I think the comment about a man who is passionate about caring for the kids, making meals, etc - awesome!

I have always been attracted to men who are passionate about whatever it is they do in life - whether that is a Fortune 500 career or a mediocre hard labour job. As long as they enjoy what they are doing and perceive some satisfaction from it - great!

I think the conclusion of the article was spot-on...we are looking for kindness, honesty, trust and mutual respect - none of which you can see without getting to know someone quite well.

Just my $0.02
 
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I am not really attracted to tall guys. I am too short, at 5 foot 2 inches to hang around with really tall guys. It makes me feel like one of the seven dwarfs. I am too fair skinned to want to date a guy with dark complexion because he would want to hang out at the beach all day and I would simply fry.

Rich would be good but being nice as in being a good friend is even better. I agree with some of the ladies above who wrote about what a turn on is a guy who is truly excited about something be it a job, or a cause, or learning.

If a guy is not passionate about at least one thing in his life, he probably won't be very passionate in the bedroom, either. And that sounds like he would be BORE and that is much, much worse than being tall, or dark or ugly, or...
 
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Tall? Nah, At 5'2", I prefer average-sized guys. Rich? Not a requirement either; it would be a bit intimidating for me. As long as a man can support himself, he's fine. I'm of "a certain age" and not looking for a family provider. Nor are looks that important. Average is fine.

What is important is that confidence that stops short of arrogance, and a passion for something in his life - career, cause, or activity - which gives him a spark in his eye and and a smile on his face.

 
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Seems like this article is geared to the younger EH members.

For us middle agers, we're usually who we are by this stage of our lives.

Perhaps I may provide some perspective to what the well balanced middle aged male is seeking in a lady. It is assumed that the guy is not trying to act like a 25 year oldand has had enough character building experiences at this stage of life to really understand who they are and what they want.

Sucess is a relative term, what is attractive to some may not be to others, as such I would recommend that you look for some one who is your equal in appearance, financially secure and emotionally balanced.

Priorities in life should be define by now ( ie. kids, quality of life, education, etc..)

A wise man knows his powers and limitations .....and that is attractive to the opposite sex.
 
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Abashment,54162 wrote :

Interesting article!

I've actually heard that women become increasingly attracted to more masculine men as they become more fertile, even if they are already with a provider-type. It's like a (supressable) biological drive to cheat in order to have a child with a man with the best genes, without the provider type realizing.

Ever since reading that I've been terrified of something like that happening!
I just had to say that this is hilarious.
 
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