Demystifying the Single Woman

Demystifying the Single Woman

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eharmonyadvice is offline eharmonyadvice — Advice Official Moderator Post #1  January 30,2008, 1:50am

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Ever wonder what goes on inside the single woman's mind when it comes to dating? It's not as dark, mysterious, or scary as you might think. In fact, by getting to know what and how we think, you may just discover a thing or two that'll make trying to date us easier.
 
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Lonesome is offline Lonesome Post #2  January 30,2008, 5:37am
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As a male, (older), I found the comments interesting Perhaps I should have realized this many years ago....
 
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The Realist is offline The Realist Post #3  January 30,2008, 7:03am
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I love it. This is soooooo true about single women. I couldn't have described us better myself. I especially like "Material things don't impress us" and "Honesty really is the best policy". I live by these laws when finding a companion.
 
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duser123d is offline duser123d Post #4  January 30,2008, 7:39am
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This was news? They could have added under honesty that he should know what he wants and tell her what it is. There is nothing like an informed choice, right?
 
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Ranimal is offline Ranimal Post #5  January 30,2008, 8:58am
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Clearly written by a female to maintain the Female Agenda. "...be honest"? Oh yeah that'll work. Dear, I slept with your best friend. Run that around the block & see how it works. The female drive to get the male to be honest is so she can have more control of ghe situation while she will be honest when she feels like it. "Material things don't impress us". Which planet does that exist on? You see gorgeous babes flocking to wealth by the busload. Sure a guy can do fine with just a little charm. But, try drivinging up to her fancy home in a beat up'82 Chevette. If she says she is not impressed with material things, let's see how she fields that display.Maybe not all women have marriage on the brain.But, at some point in the relationship, whether months or years, she will bring the subject of marriage to the fore. She's a woman. She wants kids. She wants a man to father them. Yes, some will settle for artificial insemination - butthose womenprobably were not dating anyway. Otherwise there were some good comments re. you really do not need a pickup line. "Hello" works amazingly well. As for sitting around some lady's living room playing video games: that is just rude.
 
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cmja is offline cmja Post #6  January 30,2008, 9:04am
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The comments section is definatly true. The honesty section should be used daily, let it be with a person of the opposite sex or just everyday living. Why would people WANT to lie? Then you have to create more lies to cover the other ones. I would have to disagree just a little with the material things section. Not that this makes me sound good, but I have been around the block quite a few times. I have found that no matter what a female tells you about not caring about money and material things, she does!!! It may not be the first thing they are looking for, but it does still impress them. As it would anyone. Lets face it, the more money you have, the easier life seems to be. Even if a woman is well off, if she were to meet a fine gentleman in every way, but was a trash man or worked at wal-mart, she would not date him on the simple fact that his social status is not as high as hers. The Realist is right. Honesty is the best policy in all aspects of life, but lets first be honest with ourselves.
 
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I generally liked and agreed with most of the article:

I can certainly live with a guy who is less than movie star looks. I do like him to be reasonably neat and hygiene is critical. If you smell or your teeth look like last night's supper I am not in the least interested in you.

I often make the first move if I find a guy I think is cool and he is too slow or shy to ask me out. I can't think of many times when this has turned a guy off. I really don't think the old rules about the girl waiting for the guy apply anyone who is under 30. Maybe the older generation still thinks along these rigid gender defined lines, but not or at least not many younger single women think this way anymore.

I love hot cars and bikes and I am impressed when a guy has these toys. But I have also dated guys who have no car and we went to a dance in a taxi and/or walked. I have nothing against expensive goodies. If he has them all the better. If he doesn't I don't care, either as long as he is fun guy to be with.

I love video games. So a guy who plays them a lot will do just fine with me!

By all mean be honest. I always try to be honest with my dates. I don't leave them thinking I am looking for Mr Right. I am not. If I am not able to make a date with them I tell them right away. No games. If the guy isn't honest with me or plays dumb games I drop him. I really don't have the time or patience or need to deal with a liar.

Yes, many of us who do not want to get married and many of us, certainly myself, like being single.

Good article.
 
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The information in this article is all so very obvious. Would you (men) want to be treated the same way? So it's really about just treating some one the way you'd want to be treated. Quite simple. *of course, the information in this article applies to about 85% of the single women! There are "material" woman out there! But you should stay away from those types anyway!
 
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Karen83165 is offline Karen83165 Post #9  January 30,2008, 9:34am
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This was such a great article and so true of the single woman. Especially the lying part , you will feel our rath. I would rather someone be honest to me even if it is something that I don't want to hear then lied to. Just be your self, it will eventually come out in the long run if your not and then you might just lose something good.
 
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Abashment is offline Abashment Post #10  January 30,2008, 9:44am
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Ranimal,54047 wrote :

Clearly written by a female to maintain the Female Agenda.
And their all in on it! It's a conspiracy of women who just want to control all the men in the world! I know because I've deciphered their secret codes in lipstick Ads. Wrap yourself in tin foil.

Seriously though, all these seem cool to me, but the honesty thing has it's limits.

"How do I look honey?"

"Well, to be honest, in the last few months I've grown less and less attracted to you. While I still think you're beautiful, you'll never have the mystical beauty that you had when I first met you. Thanks for trying though!"

Also, if you're dating multiple people and waiting to decide who's right for you, I fail to see how admitting it is going to help.
 
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