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Great advice. Thanks E harmony. I am a woman like this to some degree. Not in the finances market but in EMS. I like a little action... and would like to meet someone who can keep up with me !!!
- January 29th, 2008, 03:51 pm
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It's a sad fact that many men have a problem with successful women. Well guys, you don't have to be intimidated by an independent woman who brings home a lot of bacon. Check out these tips for dating professionally prominent women.
- January 29th, 2008, 03:51 pm
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So many men are intimidated by a woman who makes a lot of money but don't want to date "golddiggers" What gives?
- January 29th, 2008, 05:27 pm
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I look forward to hearing the perspective of gentlemen on this topic. What are some things that successful, independent women can do to encourage meaningful dating experiences without letting the issue of financially independence interfere in fostering a relationship? Thanks!


- January 29th, 2008, 08:10 pm
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Thanks for the article. It's hard meeting men who are not intimated by my success. I always find myself playing it down or avoiding topics that deal with money or work. I make a substantial income and feel like I almost have to apologize for it at times. I could care less what a guy makes as long as they are happy with what they do. Please guy's....what's a girl to do?
- January 29th, 2008, 08:37 pm
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I’m a male in my late 40s, and I personally (now) don’t mind the idea of dating a woman that is more accomplished or successful than me. But , I wasn’t always of this opinion. Back in the day when I was a young Turk, it was a huge issue. Part of it was due to the era that I was raised in (60s & 70s), men were expected to be the bread winners. I have since out grown this notion and I am more secure in my manhood. However, be they female or my male friends if they flaunt their success in a way to try to belittle me that would be a problem. Nor would I want her to feel the need to pay for everything all the time. This would be very emasculating indeed. I wouldn’t want to feel like I’m a kept man. Let me contribute in someway. But most of all don’t lord it over me. Again, I think it boils down to treating people in manner how you would like to be treated. Good luck with your searches ladies we’re out there!
- January 29th, 2008, 08:58 pm
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I'm a physician and I find that there is the success issue as well as the financial issue. I'm on eharmony in large part because it is very difficult to date in a relatively small town while being one of the physicians. I don't want to date another physician. It is rather difficult to address these issues when dating. Like the women above I would LOVE to hear the guys perspective on this one!
- January 29th, 2008, 09:37 pm
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In general, women who are more successful want to date men who are equally if not more successful than them. It's not just the men who feel intimidated; the women also don't want to feel like they have "settled".
- January 29th, 2008, 10:55 pm
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AverageJoe wrote :

In general, women who are more successful want to date men who are equally if not more successful than them. It's not just the men who feel intimidated; the women also don't want to feel like they have "settled".
Definitely emphasize "in general" because that does not apply to EVERY woman. I am involved with a man right now who makes a lot less money than I do. One might consider me much more successful than him. I never feel like I've settled. And I don't think he feels intimidated. If he does, I've never picked up on it.
- January 30th, 2008, 11:59 am
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I have not dated a woman who is more succesful than myself so I don't know what it is like. However I wouldn't mind dating a woman who is succesful and has lots of money. As long as we have things in common and she is fun to be with and doesn't belittle me for making less money or treat me like a puppet or take advantage of me. If we get along that is all that matters to me.



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