In communication with a "picture-less" match...a test case

haha celebs on here, sure.

And society is not to blame, each person needs to take their own level of responsibility.

Yes! I don't hold men to unreasonable Hollywood standards. Attraction is funny. I'm not solely attracted to certain physical qualities, but the whole picture as well.Sometimes the guys are mainstream attractive, other times my friends are baffled by my selection. None of us are advocating perfection. Instead, I expect them to be honest and also to care about their apperance (work out, groom, etc.). I do the same so fair is fair!

what I meant by "men have less to worry about" believe it or not I was referring to something totally different. I meant that women, particularly attractive women, or just women that are attractive to the wrong man, have to worry a tad more about stalkers. Yes we all know some crazy women that might see a man's picture then hunt him down....wait....I dont know any of those women. I mean women have to worry about their security more (and not the opposite of insecurity, I mean they need to worry about their safety). Men, most of those non-weak men tend to not be afraid of their safety while online dating (though there are probably some annoying women that wont take no for an answer I doubt many men are really afraid for their lives cause some crazy broad saw his picture and can't take no for an answer).


Now, onto totally suprerfical things. Men have less to worry about because women are more forgiving of appearance if its not perfect. End of story. (on that one)


The area where its equal is both men and women could be in a high profile job and not want their picture scattered about the internet. Or a low profile job where they don't want their picture scattered over the interent, etc.


Then of course there are reasons I have not thought of myself, that plenty of people may have for not posting their picture.

Agreed. If you don't take care of yourself, how can you expect that of your potential mate? Unfortunately, there are those of us out there who are more shallow and do expect a bit more perfection than others. I realize that we all have flaws, but if I expect more from others, I in turn expect more ofmyself and am moreapt to be the best I can be. It does become a problem trying to balance out what qualities are most important to you vs. what is actually put in your path. You do have to compromise, but so does everyone else. Photos are a good way to see who you are dealing with once you decide the intellectual stimulation is there through conversation and correspondence.Without both, how can you tell if you are wasting your time?

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Well-said!

I agree with safety being an issue for women but I do not agree that its a reason to not post a photo.


And yes I hold any potential match so no higher a standard that I hold for myself.

besides an address, a phone number and social security number a picture is about the most identifiable peice of information between me and you finding me. given we all have a location posted right up there with our first name on eharmony.