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I received a match today who said on his profile, "I am not rich. In fact, I have a lot of debt. But I am happier than I've ever been." That's great that he's happy, but that statement made me wonder. Nobody said anything about being rich, but is it too much to ask for an eH match to be financially responsible and able to support himself?


And what's up with the guys who don't fill out their entire profile and give short, nondescript answers, usually with no photo attached? eH seems to be sending me a lot of those lately and I close all of them out because these guys put no thought into their profiles and do not give me any sort of info about themselves. And Idon't likewhen the guyspost fuzzy, faraway photos where you can't even make out which person they are. Or the ones where some girl has obviously been chopped out of the photo. I also don't care for bad web-cam photos or those up-against-the-bathroom-wall self-portraits. Shirtless photos are a major turnoff, too.


Anyone else have eH peeves today?
 
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I suspect that a lot of those short-profile, no-photo matches are in fact nonsubscribers. Pity, because I got one today that might have potential (or might not; it's hard to tell with so little written), and of course I don't know if he'll even join.[img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-undecided.gif[/img]
 
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All but one of my six daily matches had no photo and most had barely filled out profiles. One mentioned sex in most of the sections. all crap and all closed. Thanks eH.





Dont you have to fill out the questionaire first before you get to the profile filling out stage? Are they even doing that? The matches I got today had NOTHING in common with me.
 
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How about when you have your settings to 30 miles only and you're getting multiple matches in Canada, Australia, and India (I am in North Carolina btw) and no matches for the USA. Is this what I signed up (and paid $50 dollars a month) for?
 
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Oh hey we live in the same town! How weird you are getting them that far away and I am not! I wonder if we are getting the same matches?
 
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well, i guess we have to give him points for honesty. but seriously, who is going to want to date much less get seriously involved with someone with "a lot of debt." unless this is his (not so) clever attempt at weeding out the "gold diggers"?? who knows.


the self portraits in the bathroom mirror creep me out a little - don't they have any friends that can take a picture for them or even a group shot while they are all out having fun someplace? the webcam ones always bother me too. i don't mind the ones where they cut the girl out of the photo; it's the ones where theyleave her IN! i don't really want to see himposing with his ex-girlfriend/wife or a group of girls he met atsome event at 'hooters'. but, i guess SOME picture is better than none.
 
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LOL Hi neighbor! When I was getting local matches most of them were in Cary and Raleigh. Maybe one or two chapel hillians. Have you reached OC with any locals?
 
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I always think the web cam and bathroom mirror shots make the guy look like a serial killer. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]
 
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goldengirl7676,162578 wrote :

I always think the web cam and bathroom mirror shots make the guy look like a serial killer. [img]library/editor/plugins/emotions/img/smiley-tongue-out.gif[/img]
hahaha....I get that same feeling! I wish these guys would get a buddy to take a picture! Get props...go outside....do SOMETHING other than look like you're wasting away in front of the computer....


My matches from the last few weeks have been less than interesting to me, which bums me out. But there is one person I'm talking to, and having occasional lunch with whom I like...hoping to move to actual dates soon....
 
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goldengirl7676, wrote :




And what's up with the guys who don't fill out their entire profile and give short, nondescript answers, usually with no photo attached? eH seems to be sending me a lot of those lately and I close all of them out because these guys put no thought into their profiles and do not give me any sort of info about themselves. And Idon't likewhen the guyspost fuzzy, faraway photos where you can't even make out which person they are. Or the ones where some girl has obviously been chopped out of the photo. I also don't care for bad web-cam photos or those up-against-the-bathroom-wall self-portraits. Shirtless photos are a major turnoff, too.

Well, I will have to say that the women I have made it to the first date stage with all commented to me how surprised/impressed they were at how muchI wrote in my responses to them. So, any other men listening, it's worth the effort...








And, yeah, the whole photo thing irks me to the max. An upscale matchmaker service should require a minimum of quality photos in every profile before ever matching it to someone. But, expensive and quality are not the same...
 
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