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Oh was this thread about debt? I thought it was just a general gripe thread. My bad.
- July 7th, 2008, 05:25 pm
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FruitaBu wrote :

Oh was this thread about debt? I thought it was just a general gripe thread. My bad.
lol...either or..
- July 7th, 2008, 05:29 pm
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Oh was this thread about debt? I thought it was just a general gripe thread. My bad.


lol...either or..
hehe I just got home and am braindead. So, I'm just doing my own thing.
- July 7th, 2008, 05:50 pm
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I think the vast majority of my 'matches' are non-subscribers, as they have no photo. Since joining this group and learning a bit about how guys/girls communicate (particularly that girl who is up until 3am writing answers to a entire passell of folks, and asks the guys to be patient while she tries to get back to them)...but, I digress.


With no-photo matches, I immediately click to ask for a photo. I will then close them out in two weeks, assuming they don't know how to post a photo or they are non-sub.


The folks (i.e. guys) that post such minimal info on their 'profile' DO have to answer ALL OF THOSE FREAKIN questions in order to get to that phase....not sure whether they are truthful, but they do have to do at least that much to get sent to our 'in box'.


I do know " a friend " who tested out the theory and went on EH with a different e-mail address and answered all of the questions and profiles with her own info to see if she would match to herself. And, low and behold in about 1 week she did pop into her own box! Funny though, "she" forgot who she was when she came through as a match and was all excited to meet this new match! About a few lines into the profile it seemed to good to be true, and sure enough it was!







I am "official" I spent the money-- I'm alsofearful of having my picture out there. Some of you come from big cities where you can be somewhat anonymous. I live in the thick of trees, lakes and rocks in central Maine. It would not take long to find me with my honest profile and the small towns here. Is it possible some of us want to know if it's worth the risk? I have no problem with my appearance and would probably be getting a lot more "action" if I did post photos. Maybe I am underestimating people and their priorities. Some of the most charming/intelligent and talented men I know are average looking at best. I would love to have them in my life. Unfortunately the above described are all married as well.
- July 7th, 2008, 06:10 pm
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FruitaBu wrote :

I am so annoyed. I have lost messages. Comments are deleting themselves. I can't even get into my messages now. This is ridiculous. Tech support!!
I routinely delete messages as I've found that if I have more than 2 pages, the PM thing crashes.
- July 7th, 2008, 06:48 pm
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This was what a match I got today said about his "Passions."


"I'm currently seeing someone and want to concentrate my energy on her and our relationship. All the best in your search. No, I didn't find her on Eharmony. Passion runs in my very veins, manifested in my work, friendships, conversations, quest for knowledge, goodwill, physical activities, preparedness, and relationships. I try to make the most of each day - living with conviction and thankful for all that surrounds me."


Well so much for that. Why not just turn matching Off?
- July 7th, 2008, 06:51 pm
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corky - maybe he joined eharmony to get back at an ex he was hoping to be matched up with!?!? its the only thing I can think of that makes sense......lucky lady lol....
- July 7th, 2008, 06:52 pm
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This was what a match I got today said about his "Passions."


"I'm currently seeing someone and want to concentrate my energy on her and our relationship. All the best in your search. No, I didn't find her on Eharmony. Passion runs in my very veins, manifested in my work, friendships, conversations, quest for knowledge, goodwill, physical activities, preparedness, and relationships. I try to make the most of each day - living with conviction and thankful for all that surrounds me."


Well so much for that. Why not just turn matching Off?
I have gotten that a few times, I think they are leaving their options open. I assumed they didn't like me but if they did then they wouldnt use that excuse. I wish there were other options to respond to a close other than "please take me back or good luck in your search."
- July 7th, 2008, 06:57 pm
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This was what a match I got today said about his "Passions."


"I'm currently seeing someone and want to concentrate my energy on her and our relationship. All the best in your search. No, I didn't find her on Eharmony. Passion runs in my very veins, manifested in my work, friendships, conversations, quest for knowledge, goodwill, physical activities, preparedness, and relationships. I try to make the most of each day - living with conviction and thankful for all that surrounds me."


Well so much for that. Why not just turn matching Off?


I have gotten that a few times, I think they are leaving their options open. I assumed they didn't like me but if they did then they wouldnt use that excuse. I wish there were other options to respond to a close other than "please take me back or good luck in your search."
Well said. All the options other than "Good luck in your search" sound desperate. I would like some that are not mean but also point out some things like. "Did you actually read my profile before clicking closed?" "Thanks for closing me, the feeling's mutual." etc.,
- July 7th, 2008, 07:02 pm
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This was what a match I got today said about his "Passions."


"I'm currently seeing someone and want to concentrate my energy on her and our relationship. All the best in your search. No, I didn't find her on Eharmony. Passion runs in my very veins, manifested in my work, friendships, conversations, quest for knowledge, goodwill, physical activities, preparedness, and relationships. I try to make the most of each day - living with conviction and thankful for all that surrounds me."


Well so much for that. Why not just turn matching Off?


I have gotten that a few times, I think they are leaving their options open. I assumed they didn't like me but if they did then they wouldnt use that excuse. I wish there were other options to respond to a close other than "please take me back or good luck in your search."


Well said. All the options other than "Good luck in your search" sound desperate. I would like some that are not mean but also point out some things like. "Did you actually read my profile before clicking closed?" "Thanks for closing me, the feeling's mutual." etc.,
I agree, they get tons to choose from to close you and you get nothing to respond.
- July 7th, 2008, 07:05 pm
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