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Men won't give these personalities a second thought.
- July 6th, 2008, 08:04 am
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Men won't give these personalities a second thought.
Good list. Here are some other ones:


1) Rebounder-The woman who is still vulnerable after breaking up with an ex and she falls for you immediately. Then, she immediately wants to break up with you so she can start dating another guy.


2) Art Imitates Life Woman-This is the woman who has seen "Bridget Jones's Diary" and its sequel more times than healthy and believes it to be a microcosm of her life especially with men. The woman who almost seems to live her life vicariously through movie and tv characters.


3) Innocent BiStander-The woman who has "experimented" with both men and women and goes back and forth with no regards.


4) Jane Profane-A woman who uses excessive profanity and uses more "M-F's" than Samuel L. Jackson does in his movies. Now that's a lot!


5) Debbie Downer-The woman who is always depressed and has low self-esteem. Has frequent conversations that wind up going like, "Sometimes I feel like...I don't know."
- July 6th, 2008, 11:00 am
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Okay, Beetlejuice, I seem to attract Debbie Downers as women friends.And I have family members who attract them as girl friends or wives. The best thing to do is hide when you see them coming - 'cause they will bring you down.


The other one that I would most resent as a friend would be the Clingy #5 that EH mentions. I know a lot of women and men whoare like this. You get tired of them fast because you see them all the time - these types show up everywhere you are.
- July 6th, 2008, 04:21 pm
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Hey guys, I tell you another characteristic of a woman I cannot stand are those that freak out on you. Most of the women I have dated or have had relationships with have been divorced, and still have scars from it.First, we open up communications, we e-mail each other, call each other, and the woman tells me her pity stories of her divorce and how all she wants to do is meet a nice guy. We have our first date, then after that she does now know what to think because she has never dated a nice guy/gentleman before. So, they freak out and drop off the face of the earth.


My last relationship was with a woman who has three daughters and two ex husbands. When we had our first date, she said all she wanted was to meet a nice guy. Things went great for the next four months, thenshe goes from saying "I love you" during her lunch hour at work to telling me it's all over that same night. Apparently, she is not fully recovered from her divorce from her ex husband, or so at least that is what she claims.


Here is another amusing one: A couple of weeks ago, I opened up communications with another girl. Once again, the same song and dance story of how bitter her divorce was, and how painful it was. We make plans to have out first date for a week later, we talk almost every evening on the phone, getting to know each other better. I really thought we had some chemistry. Then on a Thursday afternoon, she calls me to reconfirm our date for Friday. All seemed well. Then after I get back from Taekwondo class, there is an e-mail from her saying she has to cancel the date because it was exactly one year ago when she broke up with her ex husband, and the memories are still too fresh.


I know that freaking out is human nature, and its perfectly natural to freakout. Hell, even I freak out every once in a while. But, I don't give into my fears. I believe in giving a person a chance.


So, to all of the divorced women out there, when you meet a nice guy, all I ask is that you please give him a chance and don't freak out!!!!!


- July 6th, 2008, 09:19 pm
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I was recently chatting with a divorced mom I was really interested in getting a first date with. Then she makes the comment that she decided to start dating again because her daughter told her "Mommy, you need to find me a daddy."
- July 6th, 2008, 09:49 pm
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I haven't dated many divorcees, but the ones that I tend to run from are the ones who crow the most about how much they took their ex's for. I was talking to a lady, a nice lady, who divorced her husband due to infidelity. All was good and well until she informed me of how proud she was that she cleaned him out. The guy cheated on her, I don't expect her to like him. But the sheer pride and joy she took in how much she took him for was more than a bit off-putting. I ran for the hills and don't regret doing so.
- July 7th, 2008, 10:35 am
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5) Debbie Downer-The woman who is always depressed and has low self-esteem. Has frequent conversations that wind up going like, "Sometimes I feel like...I don't know."
Of the ones you listed, this one is the least noxious (which isn't saying much). I guess it's because I can often times be a Dave Downer, if you will, so maybe I understand these people. Still, they can suck the emotional life out of you pretty quickly.
- July 7th, 2008, 10:39 am
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"I haven't dated many divorcees, but the ones that I tend to run from are the ones who crow the most about how much they took their ex's for. "


I can't remeber ever talking to anyone divorced, male or female, who did not feel they got the short end of the stick. In face, if you talk to each one involved in the same divorce, it is hard to correlate the two stories...it is like they each see the other as an enemy. And neither has had to put a monetary value on support, equity or service.
- July 7th, 2008, 10:52 am
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Well, I am definitely the perpetual party girl, but I am getting better. Used to be 7 days a week. Now I am limiting myself to 1 or 2 days a week. But I still lead a healthy lifestyle getting plenty of exercise (more than 99% of population exercises less than me), vast network of girl friends, I do party without substances about 1/2 of the time -- doesn't seem to change the mood one way or the other. . .
- July 7th, 2008, 11:00 am
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lada wrote :

"I haven't dated many divorcees, but the ones that I tend to run from are the ones who crow the most about how much they took their ex's for. "


I can't remeber ever talking to anyone divorced, male or female, who did not feel they got the short end of the stick. In face, if you talk to each one involved in the same divorce, it is hard to correlate the two stories...it is like they each see the other as an enemy. And neither has had to put a monetary value on support, equity or service.
I got watch my parent's marriage self-destruct up close and personal, so I have a very unique perspective on what divorcees say about each other.





In any case, this girl didn't feel she got the short end of the stick. She knew that she cleaned him out and was proud of it. Thus, I ran for the hills and rightly so.
- July 7th, 2008, 11:55 am
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