5 Types of Women that Men Avoid

5 Types of Women that Men Avoid

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jimvann is offline jimvann Post #361  March 9,2009, 12:00pm
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brownize916,162455 wrote :

lada,162392 wrote :


"I haven't dated many divorcees, but the ones that I tend to run from are the ones who crow the most about how much they took their ex's for. "


I can't remeber ever talking to anyone divorced, male or female, who did not feel they got the short end of the stick. In face, if you talk to each one involved in the same divorce, it is hard to correlate the two stories...it is like they each see the other as an enemy. And neither has had to put a monetary value on support, equity or service.


Ah Lada we are out there. I had a very amicable and fair divorce.My ex husband and I are great friends now and parent our children together cooperatively. If someone asks me about my divorce,I do not utter one negative word about my ex and never will. I don't feel good about bad mouthing someone in an effort to make myself look good. Its not who I am.


That being said, I know what you mean and I think its incrediblypoor taste for anyone to discuss their divorce and whatever resentment they have towards their ex on a date. Certainly once you enter into a LTR with someone you will talk about your divorce but if I am getting to know someone and he continually complains about his divorce or ex then that will be our last date. I don't want to be a part of that nor do I want to be around someone who is so bitter they can't move forward.
Your comments were very nice.My just recently ex girlfriend would get bent out of shap because I held on the negative comments about my ex wife.The exdid nothing wrong.Not sure about the psychology on this one.Seems like all her breakups are tainted with over the top outbursts of anger.All ex partners seem to be driven in the dirt(character)to justify the breakup.
 
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To jimvann: I was glad to read that the person you talked about is a recent ex. I wouldn't be able to keep someone that did that around. Her behavior signaled to wanting constant attention and yearning for sympathy. We've all been hurt before but to constantly bring it up like that and to try to blame one person in the relationship, doesn't fly with me. While one person may have been the one to abuse the relationship- the person that allowed this to go on has to be blamed for putting up with it.


I had a daughter with a man I was supposed to marry. It started out roses and then developed into mental and physical abuse. As angry and betrayed as I felt- it wasn't up to me to determine the relationship my daughter and her father would have. I never bad mouthed him to her and figured the day would come when she'd make up her own mind about him. I was right; however, as much as I can't stand him, I really was hoping I'd be wrong about how their relationship would turn out. In the end I managed to keep my daughter's respect.
 
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pinz,162548 wrote :

This one is for both sexes - The Hypochondriac.


Nothing is more tiresome then someone who talks ad nauseum about his/her health, and belly aches about every little nick and scrap, headache, stubbed toe. They want a 'nurse' or 'paramedic' on 'stand-by' - not a partner.


Yuck.
Your are right on this my man is taking me Thur the same thing Yuck!
 
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molly58 is offline molly58 Post #364  March 22,2009, 5:43am
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Why are these articles pointed at women that men do not want to meet? I think that the advise also relates to "men that WOMEN avoid"
 
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Proof that it takes more than one or two dates to get to know someone.
 
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PiperT is offline PiperT Post #366  April 3,2009, 12:29am
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Ok...I just have to laugh.... It is like you saying that women shoube be this 'ideal' object.'Dont betoo much of this...dont be tooo much of that.' Why dont you just say that you want June Cleaverto beyour wife for god sakes???!! the truth is every women is diffent and they all have different needs to be met and different needs to meetand the same goes for men. It is like you are asking everyong to sudenlybecome this monotonous boring person that perfectly fitsyour stupid steroetypes of what people "should" be or at least what you are trying to make them be.The truth is we are all human and we have our flaws and we have our advantages. That is whatmakes us beautiful, makes us different, makes us unique, and keeps us going. Believe it or not, it is what drives us to become better people.what ever happened to being yourself?
 
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rhemawrd is offline rhemawrd Post #367  April 3,2009, 4:31am
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This list is ok, and I've seen a few others here have added to it. I'd like to weigh in with a few of my own.


1. The High Maintenance Woman-This is the woman that seems to think that every man she dates is an ATM machine. I man might tolorate her for a short time because she tends to be good for "eye candy". But that soon wears off, and he's frustrated because his hard earned finances are only feeding his material lust, while he often watches his own FICO score suffer.


2. Damaged goods-This woman had just left a bad relationship. He ex was abusive, manipulative, a cheater, etc. She now has some stale left over emotions, usually somewhere on the back of her mind; that every man is potentially the same way and she will eventually begin to transmit those feelings to the next guy she dates.


3. Daddy's Little Girl-This is the woman with the female equivelent to the Edipal Complex. She compares every man she dates to her father. I'm not trying to be your daddy, I'm trying to be your man is what we are thinking.


4. Peggy Bundy-Have you ever watched "Married with Children"? This woman sits around the house watching Oprah all day long. She won't cook, clean, get a job, or an education. She's of the species Lazysaurus Rex. It's amazing to the men she dates, that she even has the ability to blow her own nose.


5. The Sculpter-Men are not pieces of clay, and you cannot mold us no matter how hard you might try. This woman tries to change every man she dates, into her preconceived, and often urealistic; ideal. She wants to change the way he dresses, walks, talks, eats his food, hair style, even the what direction he farts in. This woman becomes extremely irritation in a hurry.


6. The Big Baller-So you drive a nicer car than he does. So you make a bit more than he does. So you have a bigger house than he does. Men don't care. At least secure, cofident men don't. So stop throwing in our faces when you meet us. It's not a competition. If a man can take care of himself, pay his bills, keep a roof over his own head, and a set of running wheels under his butt, that should be enough.


7. The She-Male-Some men like a Tom Boy, but no man wants a woman that is trying to be as masculine as he is, if not more masculine than he is. This type of woman tries to press the pants, and wear them too in the relationship. No man want's to date his road dog, or worse; himself.


8. The Velcro Girl-This woman is more stuck on herself than duct tape to cat fur. She is the embodiment of Narcicus. She spends more time in the bathroom puffing and primping than wetness in water. She can't seem to ever go anywhere unless her hair, nails, make-up, shoes, outfit, etc are perfect. This removes any chance of spontenaity in the relationship and we men hate it.
 
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neehee73 is offline neehee73 Post #368  April 3,2009, 6:01am
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I wouldnt blame just the women for having some of these qualities. We also could fit perfectly into this group. Im sure you knew that. Maybe they just wanted to keep us from squabling with eachother in the comments. But guess what ? I happen to be a man that likes to see what they are telling women about what men like. Because( in my opinion) you are creating a situation where you are telling a woman not to be herself. Sometimes these qualities are what makes that person who they are. Lets face it, we arent perfect, we are humanand we all have that one little thing that the person we are dating or even married to would love to destroy. Continuing on...If a woman who may have one of these issues she is going to need practice to change the habit, it wont go away overnight. So now we need guinea pigs. She is going to go out and try not to be like that. Or should I say instanly not being themselves. If they continue to date eventually the truth will come out. Relapse, then it just leaves the other person confused about who the person really is. Maybe sometimes it would be good for people to just be themselves, its simple. maybe if someone with one of these five traits needs to meet someone with one of these five traits. They will either clash and go seperate ways, mesh well and continue the relationship because of understanding or see themselves in that other person and realize they dont want to be that way anymore. A lot of these traits come and go with maturity. I think the toughest one to deal with is " The flirty woman or man". Someone who is an extreme flirt isnt looking for a relationship anyway. They simply are not ready. If a person like this is actually even on here looking to see what they are doing wrong, I dont think you are going to get a " I feel guilty" type reaction from a person like this anyway. I think there is a different reaction to this problem depending on what end of the flirting you are on. Example: If you are out on a date with a flirty girl and she is flirting with other men, it can make you crazy, but if at the same time there is another woman in the crowd with another man and she is flirting with you it may turn you on a bit. it just depends. Okay, I am through babbling, BE YOURSELF, someone out therre is willing to compromise your indifferences. You both have them. Peace...
 
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CCCharlie is offline CCCharlie Post #369  April 3,2009, 6:12am
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I have 5 girl friends to the above types to a tee....


there still single, and will probably never find Mr. Right, although oppisites do attract.


So, what I want to know is what type of 5 guys would match with these types of 5 women.
 
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You contradict yourself - 1. "For a guy, not having to do all the work is a relief."


5. "The Windbag, however, doesn’t know that the sound of silence is golden. "


I think men don't try at all and it's fine, women are always expected to be perfect. I've been married over 20 years and my husband would definitely agree after observingmy life and our daughter's life, versus his and our two sons.
 
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