Playing hard to get or lost interest?


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Travelchick is offline Travelchick Post #1  February 21,2012, 8:41pm
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I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks now we used to go out twice a week. And now it seems there is less contact on his part. I'm just wondering if i should just wait and see if he try's to contact me again. Thanks
 
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For most guys, playing hard to get will get them nothing but alone. More likely either a lack of interest on his part or a perceived lack of interest on your part.
 
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Travelchick wrote :
We were making out at the time and he asked me what I had done with guys before.
If this is the guy then you have your answer
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I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks now we used to go out twice a week. And now it seems there is less contact on his part.
How interested are you? Or he?
 
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Travelchick wrote :
I'm just wondering if i should just wait and see if he try's to contact me again.
If you don't care either way, wait and see is a good approach. If you want to see him again, initiating a date is a good approach.
 
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Travelchick wrote :
I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks now we used to go out twice a week. And now it seems there is less contact on his part. I'm just wondering if i should just wait and see if he try's to contact me again. Thanks
Reading between the lines of your post I have to ask what you have been doing to show interest? If you have not been equally involved in initiating calls, planning dates and issuing invitations then he has probably decided that you are not interested, that you not compatible with him, or that you are just too much work.

BTW guys don't "play hard to get". That is a game that women play.
 
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Travelchick wrote :
I've been dating this guy for a couple weeks now we used to go out twice a week. And now it seems there is less contact on his part. I'm just wondering if i should just wait and see if he try's to contact me again. Thanks
I'd say if it's only been two weeks, you probably don't know him very well. So it's tough to say what's going on..
Is he busy at his job? When was the last time you spoke with him?
 
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Kalikia is offline Kalikia Post #7  February 23,2012, 10:21pm
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Hi -
I'm new to this but I have a question about someone I already dated but didn't meet here -
We saw each other several times after being introduced by a mutual friend - really hit it off! Then I got back together with my ex - told "Tommy" I'd be in touch if anything changed - it could be 6 months, whatever.
Well, it's been over 2 years, the ex is out of the picture -I've been in touch, he's been in touch, but we haven't gotten together!
We're both in our 60's (YOUNG and active for our age) - I made the initial contact to wish him a happy birthday and to let him know my phone numbers changed. Nice 20 minute or so conversation.
A couple of calls since then - I've initiated and so has he - early Febuary he called and said he'd call in a couple of weeks to have me up to his house and show me the renovations he's made.
The last communication was a voicemail I left as well as a text wishing him a happy Valentine's Day, which I was encouraged to make by my best friend (she knows him) and a guy-friend - not a word back!!
I'm tired of 'waiting' and am wondering if he's playing games, gotten into a relationship, truly busy . . . he's a well known and eligible guy in our community - told me he didn't want a 'relationship' when we were seeing each other.
Is he making me wait because I made him wait?
Is he just not interested and being 'nice' when those contacts happened?
I am VERY hesitant to make another contact . . .
Any suggestions? I guess he's 'just not that into me', huh?
The good ones always get away - - -
Thanks for your input!
 
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Kalikia wrote :
Hi -
I'm new to this but I have a question about someone I already dated but didn't meet here -
We saw each other several times after being introduced by a mutual friend - really hit it off! Then I got back together with my ex - told "Tommy" I'd be in touch if anything changed - it could be 6 months, whatever.
Well, it's been over 2 years, the ex is out of the picture -I've been in touch, he's been in touch, but we haven't gotten together!
We're both in our 60's (YOUNG and active for our age) - I made the initial contact to wish him a happy birthday and to let him know my phone numbers changed. Nice 20 minute or so conversation.
A couple of calls since then - I've initiated and so has he - early Febuary he called and said he'd call in a couple of weeks to have me up to his house and show me the renovations he's made.
The last communication was a voicemail I left as well as a text wishing him a happy Valentine's Day, which I was encouraged to make by my best friend (she knows him) and a guy-friend - not a word back!!
I'm tired of 'waiting' and am wondering if he's playing games, gotten into a relationship, truly busy . . . he's a well known and eligible guy in our community - told me he didn't want a 'relationship' when we were seeing each other.
Is he making me wait because I made him wait?
Is he just not interested and being 'nice' when those contacts happened?
I am VERY hesitant to make another contact . . .
Any suggestions? I guess he's 'just not that into me', huh?
The good ones always get away - - -
Thanks for your input!
K, in the future, you might want to start a new thread to address your issue rather than hijack another person's thread. No worries . . . you're new here and we are very forgiving (I hope).

What's the old saying about being a fool twice?
 
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It sounds like he is just being friendly and as he told you, does not want a relationship.
Your V-day messages may have put awkward pressure on him since he knows you are on the rebound and looking again.

Perhaps he just wants to be friendly and polite...but isn't looking for dating / relationship situation....Good Luck..
Kalikia wrote :
We're both in our 60's I made the initial contact to wish him a happy birthday and to let him know my phone numbers changed.. . . he's a well known and eligible guy in our community -

We saw each other several times after being introduced by a mutual friend - really hit it off! Then I got back together with my ex - told "Tommy" I'd be in touch if anything changed - it could be 6 months, whatever.

Well, it's been over 2 years, the ex is out of the picture -I've been in touch, he's been in touch, but we haven't gotten together

A couple of calls since then - I've initiated and so has he - early Febuary he called and said he'd call in a couple of weeks to have me up to his house and show me the renovations he's made.

The last communication was a voicemail I left as well as a text wishing him a happy Valentine's Day- not a word back!!

I'm tired of 'waiting' and am wondering if he's playing games, gotten into a relationship, truly busy told me he didn't want a 'relationship' when we were seeing each other.
 
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