Two weeks without any nookie? Is it possible?


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scully98 is offline scully98 Post #1  February 19,2012, 4:19am
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I'm making a vow! I'm gonna go two weeks without any nookie from the hot guy I went out with on Friday night. It'll be close to a first for me. Two weeks of dating and keeping my panties on. I'm posting this here so you guys can keep me honest!!!

I know. The rest of the planet always goes two weeks (or, gasp, longer!) without sleeping with someone new. But I don't. The longest I've ever held out in my entire life with someone I was attracted to was my second husband. I held out 17 days. Whoo-hoo! (Maybe that's why he married me. He thought I was soooo pure.)

Actually, on second thought, one of the reasons I could hold out with him so long was because I wasn't THAT attracted to him. That shoulda told me something!

But normally, if I like a guy, I sleep with him on the second or third date (and a couple of times on the first!) And that's usually within five or six days of our first date.

This time, I want to wait a bit, so that it doesn't sound crazy when I insist upon exclusivity at the same time we have sex. And so that I can actually get to know him at least a little. And see if we're on same page with what we want out of dating. So far, it seems that we do. We had a six-hour date on Friday night and we talked about everything from our views on marriage to dating and parenting and everything in between.

We also had an absolutely wonderful kiss in the parking lot after he walked me to my car. It made my toes curl.

We're going out today - he said he wants to spend as much time with me today as I will give him - and we will have an hour alone in my house at one point, so I have to put my chastity belt on. Which for me, is not shaving my legs or getting a bikini wax. There is no way I'm letting him see my lady garden in an ungroomed state! And since I haven't been on a date since Feb. 1 with the last guy I was sleeping with, well, it's had time to revert back to nature.

So this is my vow - NO NOOKIE FOR TWO WEEKS, MINIMUM! If I can go longer, yay me! But at least two weeks.
 
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Thank you. I need the prayers. I keep telling myself I can control everything that goes on below my waist. But somehow, getting a hot guy on my couch, kissing me, his arms wrapped around me, and I tend to lose all sense of composure.

So to counteract that, my original plan was to keep hot guys off my couch. Maybe put spikes on it or something, so no one sits down. But I guess I just have to practice self control instead. Darn. I suck at self control when it comes to men. I can avoid eating fattening desserts, I can push myself to exhaustion on the treadmill, but I can't easily say no when a hot guy wants to give me a thrill.
 
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scully98 wrote :
but I can't easily say no when a hot guy wants to give me a thrill.


you may be a sex mechanic!
 
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What a coincidence...lol....like grocery shopping when you're starved...Have fun...
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we will have an hour alone in my house at one point
 
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Do you have to have him in your house alone for 1 hour? I would resist THAT and the rest will follow for today at least.
Good Luck Scully! You can do eet!
 
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lol, wiseman. I know. it's a dangerous scenario. but I'd told him that I was free at a certain time, and the movie doesn't start for a couple of hours, so he asked if it was okay if he came over early so that we could spend extra time together. I said of course. thinking, holy crap, I will have to practice what I've been preaching all week, now. cause he did mention that he can't wait to kiss me again. and just reading those words made me get all twirly inside. sigh.
 
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scully98 wrote :

So to counteract that, my original plan was to keep hot guys off my couch. Maybe put spikes on it or something, so no one sits down.
Is this latex guy?? I dunno, he might be into that.
 
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I don't know that it's wise to go against who you truely are ...

The risk there, is that in presenting an untrue persona, you fail to attract the very people you'd actually be compatible with.

The scenario you describe also raises the risk of being seen to be a "tease."

I do agree with an exclusivity discussion / agreement at least by the first time, and another option is to seek an std test beforehand.
 
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