ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #1  February 12,2012, 8:44am
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On CBS Sunday morning had a story on online dating sites:

The science of love - CBS News Video


A research from Northwestern looked at the effectiveness of online sites:

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/12/op...atch-hype.html

Here is the actual article:

http://www.psychologicalscience.org/...ting-proof.pdf
 
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We are all doomed, is that what you're saying?
 
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I did not read the articles but the CBS show perpetuates a misconception of online dating sites that they determine who you are going to fall in love with. They are all nothing more than a method of introduction. Everything else is up to you and your match, it does not matter which dating site you use, whether you are using a 70 something year old "match maker", or are meeting people on the street.

Even though the old fashioned "match maker" is typing away on a circa 1970 IBM Selectric typewriter she is still using an "algorithm" to do her matching and she is using databases that happen to be on slips of paper in file folders.

As for Match's heuristic matching, it does not work. It is buggyer than eHarmony. The more I say "No, this is not the type of person I am looking for." the more they send me more matches that are just like them.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
We are all doomed, is that what you're saying?

I could only speak for you.....
 
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Interesting article. Agree that emotionally volatile and drugs /alcohol are deal breakers across the board. The rest, as they suggest...has too many variables that are difficult to measure.
 
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The CBS Sunday morning show was good and similar to the MSNBC show that many watched the other night....I think since some of these articles have just come out...people are reporting on it...

I finally like seeing the realistic view of online dating...that much of it is "luck"...and not any different than the odds in the real world..The key is getting to the actual date and taking it from there.
 
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I watched the video clip and read the article, altho I didn't read the actual study. What it says makes perfect sense. That while you can meet up based on certain qualities you think the other has, it's only after you meet in person that you can determine some of the more important aspects that make relationships work, including problem solving techniques, etc.

Again, it's just saying that you use online sites as a method to meet, and the rest is about old-fashioned compatibility once you do meet in person.
 
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Unfortunately, I think there are plenty of people out there that put too much faith in the various algorithms and they get upset quickly. Let's face it, if these were perfect, you really wouldn't need much more than one match. Even if you got a match that was totally compatible, there's nothing to say that you'll hit it off for any number of reasons.

In my own experience on eHarmony, I've seen some matches that seem right on target and some where the only similarity seems to be we're both on eHarmony. Most fall somewhere in the middle

I'm sure it is right around this time of year that dating sites see a surge in membership as people get down when they spend Valentine's Day alone. It wouldn't surprise me if this was sort of like their Black Friday.
 
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