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eharmoneed_1 is offline eharmoneed_1 Post #1  February 10,2012, 4:31pm
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This is probably not the right forum, but I had a bad exeperience a few years ago with online dating and the common denominator was that the guys had sunglassess on in their profile photos. I interacted with them anyway but should not have. One turned out to be a liar. The other was just shadey (no pun intended)

Can someone please explain to me why guys where sunglasses in their profile photos and what is the psychology behind it.

Now I avoid all profiles with sunglasses. But recently I came across a guy that had a great profile and he contacted me - but those shades - I just can't get past those shades. They were on in more than one photo.

To the guys - What are you trying to hide or say with these photos? I want to see the real you.
 
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If a photo is outdoors in daylight, I am fine with a match wearing sunglasses.

I prefer not to see this as a primary photo, and obviously not any indoor photos.

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It is unlikely that such people are "trying to say" anything - as it is unwise to believe that eyewear of a match allows one to "see the real them."
 
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eharmoneed_1 wrote :
This is probably not the right forum, but I had a bad exeperience a few years ago with online dating and the common denominator was that the guys had sunglassess on in their profile photos. I interacted with them anyway but should not have. One turned out to be a liar. The other was just shadey (no pun intended)

Can someone please explain to me why guys where sunglasses in their profile photos and what is the psychology behind it.

Now I avoid all profiles with sunglasses. But recently I came across a guy that had a great profile and he contacted me - but those shades - I just can't get past those shades. They were on in more than one photo.

To the guys - What are you trying to hide or say with these photos? I want to see the real you.
I'm not sure this is a very reliable common denominator because, in my experience, many, many guys have photos with sunglasses on. It would be, in my book, a bit akin to saying you had to avoid men who had brown hair or wore suits in their photos on similar grounds.
 
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As long as it's not their main profile photo--everyone should have at least one clear photo showing their face and body--it's likely they're just posting good photos of themselves where they happen to be wearing sunglasses. You're hung-up on sunglasses, another lady may be hung-up on T-shirts or dress shirts. ::shrug:: Try to overcome your baggage as you may be missing out on great opportunities and you can't expect the world to change for you.
 
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I like nakked photos !!!
 
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Unless he's wearing sunglasses in all of his pictures, you're overreacting. If there aren't any pictures where you can see his eyes, then I'd probably just move on because I would want at least one nice clear shot. If he sounds promising in other ways, you should take a chance.
 
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Darn ! I never got any matches like that !

I think OP needs just acknowledge and that some people like their sunglasses and date them regardless. One date and if you do not like what you see, you are done. What is there to loose ?

When I was younger I always wore eyeglasses which had colourmatic (Now they call them transition) lenses and no one could see my eyes. Those things would shut down like there is no tomorrow and I loved them. All my old pictures are like that. They mean nothing ...

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To the OP, I have a question for you. If you communicate with a match that isn't wearing any sunglasses in his photos and after communicating with said match as well as meeting, greeting and possibly dating for a little while and he turned out to be a liar, cheater and possibly verbally and physically abusive, would you conclude that all men who doesn't wear sunglasses in their photos is the same as the person you have dated prior?

Point is that photos are important when assessing someone's overall value, but it should not be the sole indicator of someone's overall value.

I understand the rationale behind someone who feels a person who wears sunglasses may be hiding something, but I would be careful to make this belief as an absolute truth. Look at the total package before rendering a judgment. I could form a similar opinion about women who only have one photo or the many women who have headshot only photos. What are these women hiding? In all, do what you feel is best, but you may miss out on some quality matches.

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You should never contact people with sunglasses, especially if they made their picture on a boat. People wearing helmets, goggles and hats are very dangerous also.
 
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I wear my sunglasses at night, so I can, so I can...
 
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