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White Ethnicity
Height6′ 2″ (1.88m)
.Body TypeFit
Diet Anything SmokesNo
DrinksOften
DrugsNever
ReligionAgnosticism but not too serious about it
SignAquarius but it doesn’t matter
Education Graduated from masters program
JobConstruction / Craftsmanship
IncomeRather not say
OffspringHas a kidPets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks English, Spanish (Poorly)


My self-summary I am busily, gainfully, self-employed working in real estate and home repair and my work affords little opportunity to meet new people. Excepting that one little problem, for the first time in my life I love what I do. While I work hard, and a lot, my situation allows me to be pretty flexible and get out- I just don't have a whole lot of excuse to do so. I am hoping to find someone to help me to stop and smell the roses so to speak. This is getting way ahead of things, but ideally I want to find someone to settle down with and have a family. I am VERY tired of watching my friends sit around smoking pot and playing video games and need someone in my life who likes good conversation and likes to get out and do things whenever it is possible and chill out and relax when its not.

The comments about your friends above in green is pretty negative. I don't think you need to include this at all. I've bolded the parts above that I think you should leave in.

I am mature, mentally and financially stable, hard-working, positive, intelligent, handy, polite, very devoted to those who I care about, and in good physical shape. I am also honest, logical, efficient, and frugal, all to a fault but I can and do laugh about it. I am not needy, creepy, perverted, or interested in bizarre things. I am also the first to admit that I am awful at dating- imagine Steve Carrell in The 40 Year Old Virgin, except I'm younger and not a virgin so I don't have that excuse. I like dining out, people-watching, good conversation, socializing in small groups, going to the beach, just about any physical activity outside of the gym, traveling whenever possible, cooking, being productive, watching movies and quality television (like what?), driving out in the country, and anything that teaches or improves me.

Don't compare yourself to a socially awkward virgin. I'm not sure if that's your attempt at humor but I would just think "god this guy would probably be really hard to talk to on a date". Frugal is also not a good trait to advertise. I'm no gold digger but a guy who describes himself as "frugal" usually ends up being a guy who never wants to go out to eat or go anywhere cause he doesn't want to spend money. Again bolding parts you should leave in.

I am looking for a woman who is: in good physical shape, not bi-polar, and not hooked on anything legal or otherwise (smoking pot is irrelevant to me). Big plus: Positive, extroverted, or intelligent. This strikes me as a pretty wide net if you ignore our epidemic of obesity.

Most of this is super negative. Start with the positives that you are looking for and leave out all the negative stuff. Also here might be a better place to put a woman who wants to settle down and have kids, versus your other section further up.

Be advised, I have a daughter. I had her very, very young. She is 16 now and I am not looking for a mom for her. Her mom is completely out of the picture and has been for about 16 years. Of course she takes priority in my life, though she is too cool to spend time with me these days.

The way this is worded it makes it sound like mom is not around at all, and your daughter is with you full time.


What I’m doing with my life Science by training, but...
Fixing up houses here and in Wilmington
Fixing friends' and family's houses
Selling houses
Reading / writing / enjoying history, science, and whatever else I'm into at the moment


I’m really good at Learning, seeing the silver lining, listening, cooking, interacting with kids, Jeopardy, fixing anything, writing, debating, pool.


The first things people usually notice about me I am busy. Not in a "piss off" way, but in a "if I don't do it it won't get done 'cause everybody is a freaking slacker, hey while you're there hand me that wrench" way.


Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food Non-fiction, 100 Years of Solitude / Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind / tool, peppers, zeppelin, bagpipes, local / Mexican, Thai, Sushi, Southern, I like all things food.


The six things I could never do without I’m an empty essay... fill me out!


I spend a lot of time thinking about Do you ever wake up and you're 34 and your kid is too cool to hang out with you and all the good girls you passed on because you were too busy have married (insert plural descriptive of your choice here), but you also didn't go down the "I'll do drugs and pretend like I'm in college for the rest of my life until I realize I'm a waste" path either? No?

This whole thing sounds weird and doesn't make a lot of sense.


On a typical Friday night I am These days they aren't that typical. I have been changing up a lot in my life right now and am wide open to new things.


The most private thing I’m willing to admit What most people would call a ghost hangs out at one of the houses that I deal with. In its own weird way this has changed my perception of the world.


I’m looking for
Girls who like guys
Ages 23-38
Near me
For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners


You should message me if You are intelligent, and you are in good physical shape, and you don't often find yourself focusing on that which you hate. The last line sounds really negative, and is actually kind of hypocritical since you have a lot of negativity in your profile.

I spend a lot of time thinking about Do you ever wake up and you're 34 and your kid is too cool to hang out with you and all the good girls you passed on because you were too busy have married (insert plural descriptive of your choice here), but you also didn't go down the "I'll do drugs and pretend like I'm in college for the rest of my life until I realize I'm a waste" path either? No?

And just because it is relevant, a cute, successful girl who read the above profile sent me a message the other day that started with:

"If all the things you say about yourself are true, you just might be the greatest man ever. I am hoping you assessment is accurate."

So it can't be THAT bad.