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You see someone your attracted too from a distance. The first thing you think is should I try a direct or indirect approach? While both have their advantages or disadvantages I've heard that the direct approach is the most successful. But I've heard the indirect approach works good because it's more playful, romantic and interesting. If you saw someone that you were attracted too, which approach would you use and which one do you think would be more successful?
 
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if i saw someone i was attracted to "from a distance" i might directly approach them to get to know them better. but if you are asking about asking out a complete stranger- i would not have done that either directly or indirectly. i wanted to know who i was going out with first.
 
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I'd say just avoid cheesy lines that the other person has probably heard 1,000 times. Smile, be confident, and show a genuine interest in the other person. Whether you're trying to be funny or direct, odds are the person will respond to your attitude more than what you're actually saying.
 
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What's the indirect approach?....sending your driver over?
 
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He's reading Neil Strauss or Mystery or some other moronic "pick up artist" book. Those terms "direct and indirect approach" are "pick up artist" 101.

Try just being yourself and stop reading this tripe.
 
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Out of curiosity....is there a reason why you just joined and have started 7 different threads but not going back and responding in any of them?

None of them seem to be about personal questions and just generic questions....

It's an unusual occurrence so this is why I was asking....nothing wrong with it...but it does help when you are new to let people know whether it's a personal question trying to help you...so people are expecting you to come back and engage in dialogue with them, or it's just a generic question that you have no interest in the answer....
 
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tweet37 wrote :
What's the indirect approach?....sending your driver over?
LOL!!!!!
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
Out of curiosity....is there a reason why you just joined and have started 7 different threads but not going back and responding in any of them?

None of them seem to be about personal questions and just generic questions....

It's an unusual occurrence so this is why I was asking....nothing wrong with it...but it does help when you are new to let people know whether it's a personal question trying to help you...so people are expecting you to come back and engage in dialogue with them, or it's just a generic question that you have no interest in the answer....
I definetly have an interest in all the answers I've read so far. Obtaining knowledge on topics that arouse my curiosity is my primary goal here. Obtaining new knowledge while comapring your point of views and opinions against other peoples is very helpful, you gotta love it
 
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TryingHardToNotTrySoHard wrote :
I'd say just avoid cheesy lines that the other person has probably heard 1,000 times. Smile, be confident, and show a genuine interest in the other person. Whether you're trying to be funny or direct, odds are the person will respond to your attitude more than what you're actually saying.
I agree, It's better just to be confident and say what's on you'r mind. If your lucky you can score a date with someone using a cheesy pick up line but it's just very corny in this day and age unless you can say it in a very humorous and romantic way.
 
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"Hi! My name is AndieIsMe. I couldn't help but notice you from WAY OVER THERE and I had to come over and introduce myself. What is your name?"
 
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