Special-K is offline Special-K Post #1  February 7,2012, 11:46am
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Saturday evening I met a female friend for happy hour. As we were leaving, a guy approached me and asked why we were leaving so soon and where we were going from there. Realizing I had stopped, my friend turned around and ended up knowing the guy from h/s. They chatted for a bit and then he asked me again where we were going from there. I said I was meeting a date (not a bf, but a guy I had been out w/ a few times). He suggested that I call to cancel and hang out w/ him that night. I respectfully declined and said that I’d be interested in getting together another time. He (jokingly?) said that after I talked to my friend (the one I was w/), I likely wouldn’t want to go out w/ him. He didn’t ask how he could get in touch, we said our good byes and my friend and I left.

When we got outside, I asked my friend about him. She said he was very popular in h/s and she even had a crush on him at one time. Said that she was a bit offended that he was hitting on me and not her, so I dropped it.

I am interested in seeing/meeting him again, but don’t know how to handle this. I assume that if he were genuinely interested, he would have asked how to get in touch w/ me or contacted our mutual friend re the same.

What would you do?
 
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His attempt at getting you to stay sounds like he still thinks he is the popular guy in high school. LOL

I would have done the same as you and, like you, wonder why he didn't ask for a phone number, etc.
 
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His attempt at getting you to stay sounds like he still thinks he is the popular guy in high school. LOL

I would have done the same as you and, like you, wonder why he didn't ask for a phone number, etc.
LOL! After talking to my friend, I wondered the same.

I am a bit confused as to why he took the trouble to approach me and not ask how to get in touch.
 
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What a shame he didn't ask for your number or offer his!
Are you and your friend on Facebook? If so hopefully he will find you there. As for any actions you should take, I would do nothing- his lack of closing the deal plus his comment might make me wonder- he may have been doing you a favor! lol
 
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Special-K wrote :
LOL! After talking to my friend, I wondered the same.

I am a bit confused as to why he took the trouble to approach me and not ask how to get in touch.
I would personally take it to mean that he wanted some company for the night, not necessarily a date for the future. It sounds like you've made your interest known so you've done all you can.
 
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Testing to see if you are attracted to him? Likes to play games? Is actually romantically attached but found himself with a free night? Wasn't really interested, was bored and wanted to see if he "still had game"? Was expecting YOU to ask him for his number? He was waiting for his date, who canceled, and though he was already out so "why not"?
 
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All good points, many of which I have also considered.

He was w/ a male friend, so I don't think it was a 'date night' for him, which is not to say that he might not be dating someone and she wasn't available that particular night.

Yes, we're both friends w/ the mutual friend on FB.

Seems the consensus is leaning in favor of my original plan: Do nothing and if he's genuinely interested, he'll get in touch.
 
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I recommend you search high and low for a man with blue fur. Offer him as many cookies as he wants.

Don't know what you can do; just one of those missed opportunities.
 
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This sounds like the best option.
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Seems the consensus is leaning in favor of my original plan: Do nothing and if he's genuinely interested, he'll get in touch.
He may just be a big flirt, as he was in HS.
 
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If he can find you on FB he knows how to contact you. He probably will. Good luck.
 
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