Cultural real life approach differences aka "Join me for a drink?


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tangochef is offline tangochef Post #1  February 6,2012, 11:46pm
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I am traveling overseas, and I noticed one thing in regards to meeting women at social venues (dance clubs, bars etc.).

When I see an attractive woman (even with a friend) that I am interested in meeting, I send my driver over to ask her (or them) to join me for a drink. When he points to me, and she looks over I raise my glass, and smile. The success rate when I do that approaches unity. However, when I do that personally I am not as successful.

Now, that is overseas (South America, and Europe). I wonder if the same approach would work here in the States.

So, ladies are you more likely to want to join a guy for a drink if he sends his driver over to ask you or when he personally approaches you?
 
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Tango, as long as your driver is wearing a suit and his chauffeur's cap, you should have no problem.
 
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tangochef wrote :

Now, that is overseas (South America, and Europe). I wonder if the same approach would work here in the States.
I would think that, in certain areas, there would be just as many gold digging women here as there are in other countries, so, yeah..my answer would be "yes."
 
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tangochef wrote :

So, ladies are you more likely to want to join a guy for a drink if he sends his driver over to ask you or when he personally approaches you?
Let me think. Hmm.

Back in the days when I went to bars, if someone sent his driver over as you noted, I'd have found it a bit pretentious. Then again, the bars I went to were decidedly not like the bars you go to. In my case, the 'driver' was usually of the designated kind, not the "home, James" type.

Seriously, though, I think Thinker and Tweet are on the right track here.
 
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I think many women would find it insulting to be invited over by your driver. It gives the same impression that rock stars do when they have their roadies pick cute girls from the audience to go backstage. You'd wonder just how many women have been invited into your car, and whether or not you picked them out, or if you had your driver do it.

It would be more flattering if you actually got out of the car and walked over.

Maybe drivers are more common elsewhere, and there's less stigma attached to the women who trot off with them.
 
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If you are taking that approach to pick up women, in hopes of finding a LTR then good luck to you. I could not imagine that the women who respond to it are quality.
 
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Honestly, I think I would just laugh. Sorry, tangochef; it just comes across as terribly pretentious.
 
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Tango, can you also speak French ... in Russian?!?

I imagine a certain segment of the female population in the States would appreciate being approached by a hired lackey, but I don't suspect it's very large one.

If it works for you, though, why not stick with it? You're obviously targeting the right demographic overseas at any rate.
 
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That's a point. If your ideal girl likes the idea of being approached by a driver, you should keep doing that until you find her. Changing your preferred behavior to widen your dating pool won't produce anything but a greater number of women to whom you're not attracted.
 
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I am afraid that I would be most likely to send my driver over to say thanks but no thanks. A man who sends his driver is saying that I should be interested in him because of what he has not because of who he is.

But I am not just 3 months older than your daughter. Perhaps when I was that age I might have....but I would not have been interested in you for a relationship
 
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