DaLocman is offline DaLocman Post #21  February 7,2012, 3:58pm
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Hey OP, I take it you are referring to me as the one who commented about casual. Since your attempt to respond seemed modded.. I'll try to clarify.

I said, "now most men" as to say, most of those "now" responding to you after having read your profile. This is assuming they did read your profile of course.

Your profile seemed to send a mixed signal as it was originally presented, wherein you presented yourself with a "casual" flare. I took B&B as in Bed and Breakfast. Was I wrong??

Starting off with a playful idea gives the sense that sex earlier in the interaction with you is a possibility. Since you say much more in your profile, you cancel out this effect and guys interested in LTR's will still hold interest.

But then it's lost at the end, when you say I'm not looking for casual... it rejects the casual, relaxed element you presented of yourself. The guys for LTR's are confused and decide they don't know what to make of you from your profile.

The majority of those remaining will more likely be casual or undecided. Clarify the positive swings of your rules and simply leave the negatives hanging for your concern only. Don't list the "Unwanted" details or respond to anyone suggesting you break your rules. My advice anyways.
 
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coffeetogoplease wrote :
Thanks DL...I removed the dead celebrity. I agree with you that I can be more engaging in those other parts...

It occured to me today that there is another way to use this idea, that should remove the negative aspect of a celebrity referance: include both a male and female, and indicate yourself in the referance.

For instance, you might write "... we dress up like Cary Grant and Marylin Monroe and ..."

Idea being to focus on the action (dressing up), or event (going dancing), or outcome (hey, check it out, everyone is looking at us!), rather than the "here's what I expect in a man," which is how celebrity statements come across.
 
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Vanillasky is offline Vanillasky Post #23  February 11,2012, 10:21am
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coffeetogoplease wrote :
I have decided to try OKC and Match again and wrote a profile this morning. I would appreciate your critique. All comments - positive and negative are welcome! It is is OKC style:

My self summary

I am the type of woman that you want to spend time with. I exude optimism. I love to explore and I have an adventurous side- not the skydiving kind…the kind where we discover a wonderful little B&B by meandering and we don’t come up for air for 3 days. I am successful so people are often surprised by how laid back I am. I am a thinker…but I am also that one who is busy getting things done. I am looking for a modern day Cary Grant type – smart, witty and fun. You don’t have to look like him but a little irreverence will go a long way with me. A creative type is a bonus but you should definitely have a good imagination. What you do is not as important to me as what you think and what you think about.
Hello Ms. Coffee:

Your profile is nice. But, I know you. This profile is inside the box, yet I know you to be outside the box.

What I am doing with my life

*I am working and raising kids. Yet, this doesn't define me. I live in a charming home that is filled with laughter ~ where there's always something simmering on the stove. As much as I relish making meals from scratch, I enjoy a weekend filled with everything from art fairs to concerts to rollerblading. Or, a date night where...

I hope that I am making a difference. I am looking at the big picture. I am creating laughter and happiness. I work in strategy and I love it but it does not define me. I am raising kids, which is so wonderful but I am more than a soccer mom. And I don’t own “mom jeans”

You should message me if

*You are looking for a healthy, grown-up relationship. You are confident, quick-witted, outgoing. You think the odds are in our favor (something about stats & OkC percentages.)

You laughed at least once reading this. You really are looking for a relationship…I don’t do casual. You want to see if we are really as good a match as our profiles seem to be.

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Hi Coffee!

Yes, we all seem to keep looking, don't we???

My observation in reading the thread is that we (guys) read your profile through our own lenses. I saw the B&B line as open to spontaneity, sexy, playful. But those are things I value, so that's my particular "slant" on interpretation. So, we're telling you really how we interpret your profile, not how all menz are going to do this.

That being said, your original was ok, but there was something that didn't "flow" for me when I read it.

Have you considered "surveying" your audience? Look at the profiles of the men you'd like to meet. See what they tend to say they are looking for. Then, write your profile to address what they want, while still staying true to yourself, of course.

After all, aren't we all in "marketing" here?
 
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