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roskim11 is offline roskim11 Post #1  February 6,2012, 10:23am
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Dating someone I really like. First date was right before New Years and we have been on several after that. Chemistry is great, have things in common and we laugh together a lot. The kissing is phenomenal and we've talked about sex jokingly, but nothing has happened yet. He has an Asian background, born here, but raised by his mother who came from an Asian country. A friend, who is also half Asian, said he is probably not rushing things because of that, his culture, having respect, etc. He is not shy to talk about how he wants me and having evil thoughts, but not rushing into things. In the last week we'v had a few nice conversations about how we feel about each other and that we are making progressive movement.

Is this just part of his upbringing? Im ready to take it to the next level, but not sure how to proceed? We also find ourselves location inept as he has a 20-something son living with him and I have kids as well, making a spontaneous encounter slim He's mentioned a night out with dinner and an overnight, but we haven't planned as yet. Should I bring it up and try to pin down a date, or just let things continue to unfold?
 
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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #2  February 6,2012, 1:56pm
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You should look to plan the overnight. He may look at you bringing it up as a sign you want to.....

He is older ...initially I thought you guys were young 20s...but not.....so his inexperience may have much more to do with him not dating for some time.
 
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roskim11 wrote :
. He is not shy to talk about how he wants me and having evil thoughts, but not rushing into things. In the last week we'v had a few nice conversations about how we feel about each other and that we are making progressive movement.
I'd be concerned if anyone equated thoughts of sex with 'evil'. Just something to be aware of.
 
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I've heard songs about wicked thoughts. Maybe that's what he meant.
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
I've heard songs about wicked thoughts. Maybe that's what he meant.
You could be right and I could be reading too much into it. I've just noticed that some people who always describe or think of sex in 'bad' terms have more guilt/other issues than I'd want to take on.
 
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