Scotidragon is offline Scotidragon Post #1  February 5,2012, 1:27pm
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Second day on eharmony and I've already piqued a girl's interest. We tried to friend each other on FB at her request, but she appears to be having problems finding me. I found her, but she won't respond. We tried for almost an hour to get in touch. Needless to say, I'm a bit rusty on how to approach this with tact and within acceptable reasoning.
 
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MisAdventures is offline MisAdventures Post #2  February 5,2012, 1:42pm
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Skip the facebooking. Ask her out for coffee/drinks/dinner.

Adding people on facebook before I've met them and decided if we "click" always seems to end in disaster for me...
 
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MisAdventures wrote :
Skip the facebooking. Ask her out for coffee/drinks/dinner.

Adding people on facebook before I've met them and decided if we "click" always seems to end in disaster for me...
I have considered this, but it would have to be on a day off as she is two hours away from me. I don't mind the drive. Thank you for your input.
 
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I agree do not bother with FB because if things don't work out, then you may regret adding her. For her to request being FB friends she must be trying to find out more about you, and you might not want her to come to her own (wrong) conclusions about what you're like based on whatever you do on FB...which could include her checking out all your female "friends." I would try just talking briefly on the phone and set up a date for when you are free.
 
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I agree with the others. I wouldn't add her to FB until I was in a relationship or at least until I had met her and made sure she was ok. Talk on the phone, move to private email if you want, but most importantly, set up a meet ASAP. Good luck!
 
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Nevernever never friend soemone on facebook you havent even dated yet. Dont do it until you get past date 3 before you friend them
 
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I disagree, i always ask to be facebook friends before i meet anyone. Not only does it give me a chance to view more photos (not everyone puts up good photos on these dating sites) but it shows me that they have friends and a life (not some total creepy that wants to chop me up into tiny bits) I get more of an insite into who they are by reading there wall (im much funnier on my fb) If is doesnt work out i just delete them no big deal, never had an problems with it.
 
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First of all, Congratulations on dating again. It is hard to get back into the "swing" of things after awhile of not dating. I have not dated in 3 years and I too feel rusty at times.

As for me, I would NEVER add anyone on facebook I had not met and felt comfortable with. I say this because, a lot of my family is on there. I may have an overactive imagination, but what if the person is able to pick up on tid bits of information on you, like where you work, where you live, etc, etc and it ends up not working out. For whatever reason they become a little crazy and stalk you and harass your family members? That is just my thinking. I do not even let a guy pick me up from my house. I am a single mom who lives alone. You get the idea here.

Lastly, its never that hard to find someone on facebook. If she is still ignoring your friend request, then maybe she has something to hide and move on?

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Do people still use facebook? That's like soooo 2008.

To the OP, forget about facebook and ask her to meet.
 
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