scully98 is offline scully98 Post #1  February 4,2012, 10:06am
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Time for everyone to see who won the office pool. My relationship is officially over. After two weeks of him stepping up his affection, attention and more, he called me this morning to break up with me.

He said he doesn't want a committed relationship and feels guilty leading me on.

I guess the next time a guy tells me that early on, I should listen, eh?

I'm very sad today. After all of my wavering about whether I should end it or not, he'd been so wonderful this past week or two that I thought our relationship had taken a turn and we were on a better path.

I'm also mad. I should have listened to my gut instinct and ended it when I knew something was off.

He insists he hasn't been dating other women (I asked) and said his profile has been off the dating site for a while now. But I don't really believe that.

You guys were right. I was wrong.
 
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scully98 is offline scully98 Post #2  February 4,2012, 10:07am
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oh, and I found out this morning, after this guy broke up with me, that my ex-boyfriend, the one I was so crazy about last year, just got engaged and the wedding is set for this fall.
 
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Sorry to hear that scully.

If it's any consolation, we all still love ya! *hugs*

You'll have no shortage of new male suitors when you get yourself back out there. Hey the Superbowl is tomorrow, go someplace with lots of menz!
 
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So sorry to hear that Scully98 it is never about who was right or wrong ... We all wished you to be happy. One never knows what future will bring. Hopefully you will find the happiness you deserve soon. It doesn;t matter now if he has a dating profile, or had it or whatever. Please concentrate on moving on and taking care of your children.

We are always here to lend an ear ! I wish you you the best of luck !
 
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I'm so sorry this happened to you!! Wow! When it rains it pours your way...

It's never about being right or wrong... it's about offering objective advice based on personal experience. It can be so hard to see the forest for the trees when we are standing in our own forest... I know that from personal experience.

This is definitely the down side to dating. Just try and remember the great feeling of hope that he could be "the one" when you're ready to get back out there and give it another go.

Make plans w/ a girlfriend and enjoy your weekend!
 
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I'm sorry scully. Give yourself whatever time you need & then get back out there.
 
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scully98 wrote :
oh, and I found out this morning, after this guy broke up with me, that my ex-boyfriend, the one I was so crazy about last year, just got engaged and the wedding is set for this fall.

Sorry to hear....

This later piece is actually the worse part.

Is this the one you had a 6 month relationship with who is a lawyer?

this is tough on you and I am sure youd be wondering "what was wrong with me, what did I not do?"

We have seen numerous threads on this concept of long term relationship of say 3-5 yrs ends because marriage wasnt in the distance....only then to see them meet someone else and get married after only 6 months.
 
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By the way....I checked and I won the pool
 
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Sorry, scully. You can at least say you tried your best and didn't jump ship for nothing.
 
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Ouch. Very sorry to hear this.

Gut instincts are rarely wrong. I can't tell you how many times I've kicked myself over this.

Hope you can regroup quickly and try again.
 
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