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Goomph is offline Goomph — Advice Member-Moderator Post #21  January 29,2012, 2:27pm
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Not hot at all.
And yes her answer is factual.
I doubt her culture would allow her to send those pictures.

As things stand now, I am very tempted not to proceed. Since I have the option to go OC, does she also have the option to do so or is it the person who initiated the communication first gets to go OC and the other match has to wait ?
 
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I think one person has to decide to start OC, and only after that is done can each person send of their own choice.
 
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Goomph wrote :
What is the consensus ? Stop having dinner and come back to the board you all

I am so undecided ....
My advice is to stop over-thinking this and just meet her. See what she's like in person, that's all that matters. Because until you do meet her, you don't know ANYTHING about her.
 
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Goomph wrote :
Not hot at all.
And yes her answer is factual.
I doubt her culture would allow her to send those pictures.

As things stand now, I am very tempted not to proceed. Since I have the option to go OC, does she also have the option to do so or is it the person who initiated the communication first gets to go OC and the other match has to wait ?
I believe the person that first initiated has to send the first oc message.

You are fine not proceeding too. That is a viable option.

Just curious, if you had to give your reaction to her answer a percentage in the determination of not proceeding, would it be significant?
 
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OlderButWiser0549 wrote :
My advice is to stop over-thinking this and just meet her. See what she's like in person, that's all that matters. Because until you do meet her, you don't know ANYTHING about her.
Apparently he knows she's not hot at all.
 
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I think you are making this SO much more difficult than it need be...

Is this the only thing that has your brain spinning? As in...you obviously liked her photos and her profile to start communicating....

I say to just put this one thing out of your mind...get to OC and exchange phone numbers...make a phone call and plan a date...It's just one date and then you will be able to gauge more about who she really is...

Seriously....if you get worked up over a few sentences that can be easily misunderstood without knowing the person...you are going to make getting first dates much harder...

However...if there are numerous things that are red flags with her....then close and move on.
 
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I guess I was borderline to start with and that's why it became a difficult question.

Thanks for all the input. I will sleep over it and decide in the morning.
 
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Goomph wrote :
If she had accepted the culture of the country she lives in as her own culture ....

And the answer was how this a blah blah blah country and there is no such blah blah culture and so on ......

I went in my mind, thank you very much, I know where I am living. All I needed to know was if you are living as one who was born here, or are you still living according to your old customs and habits. It is important for me that the culture is common ... Small differences which pop up here and there can be worked out, but, if everything is different, then it is a no go.
Isn't this better gauged in conversation and in person? Supposed I said yes, because in my mind I attend a regular school and speak English fluently, but I show up in a burka and won't eat anything on the menu because it's not halal?

Seriously, her answer is irrelevant because the question is incredibly subjective, and there's a huge continuum. Figure that out in live conversation!
 
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I guess I was borderline to start with and that's why it became a difficult question.

Thanks for all the input. I will sleep over it and decide in the morning.
It is OK not to want to meet someone even after you start communication.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

(Aren't you glad we are all back from dinner now?)
 
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Again, thanks for the advise/opinions folks ... This board is great with the variety of responses it provides.

I decided to go OC and send the first email, and no I did not ask for inappropriate photographs DL
 
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