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littlebluemonkeymind is offline littlebluemonkeymind Post #11  January 29,2012, 3:09pm
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I agree with what's been said so far. I don't think this is a good law and I think it provides a false sense of security. I also don't believe that an online dating service is truly capable of performing a proper criminal background check. I have nothing in my criminal background, not even a speeding ticket or a parking ticket. I've never been asked for a background check, but at the same time, I'm not sure I'd want to date someone that would require one before dating either.
As someone else said, common sense is the best defense. It just sometimes goes out the window as soon as we're smitten. Besides, no background check is going to tell you how cruel or careful someone will be with your heart - which is the part that really matters anyway.
 
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I don't think it is something that should be required of dating sites. If sites choose to make it part of their package, then it is up to the individual to decide if they choose to participate. I was able to find out on my own that one guy I dated had been incarcerated. Didn't check up front though, it was after the fact when I was rather idly web surfing. Was glad we had already split up when I learned that info.
 
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No. I think it's idiot law, and a dumb waste of tax money, an example of needless, expensive regulation of free enterprise.

It is pointless, as it can easily evaded, and thus gives a false sense of security to the very people who most need a nanny state in the first place, and it opens a business up to lawsuits when the information is wrong, or the felon snuck through.
Very well stated, DL! I agree 100%.
 
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I'm pretty sure customers would have to pay for it.
 
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I've met dozens of people online and can't think of any who turned out to be criminals. Well, I guess there was the one from OKC or POF who wanted to be paid for our "date," but I didn't need a background check to tell me she was a prostitute.

If anything, let's require dating sites to verify photos, screen for personality disorders, or tell us which people will blab about themselves so much that we'll want to gouge our eyes out halfway through the first date. Unlike the criminal background check, these are things that would actually be helpful for me to know before a date.
 
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As someone who values freedom, common sense, and personal responsibility, I'm gernally against nanny state mommy and daddy government focing my own protection upon me. I got it, thanks.

There's nothing inherently more dangerous about online dating than IRL dating. Think about it, you get to talk to people online, exchange as many emails and secure calls as you want before meeting. Yet, in some idiot lawmakers eyes, that's more dangerous that just agreeing to a date with some guy/girl you just met while trying to pick out a cantaloupe.

Anyone can misrepresent themselves whether online or IRL. I'd really like to see date rape statistics and see if there's any correlation between how the two met, online or at a bar/club/bookstore whatever.

People just need to be smart, let your friends or family know where you're going and roughly how long you expect to be gone. If you are that afraid of dating and have that negative general feelings toward men that you think you're going to get raped or stuffed in the trunk of his car unless mommy and daddy government are their to vet your date for you, then you have a lot of other things to work on before bothering with dating.
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
I'm pretty sure customers would have to pay for it.
That's just it. People aren't going to pay more for something in order to make it less convenient for them. The people proposing the law probably even know that.

It's pretty common, especially in election years, for politicians to look for things that people are afraid of (or that they can convince people they should be afraid of) and create "solutions" for the non-existent problem in attempt to win votes. That's what we're seeing here.
 
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I just found out 5 minutes ago that a guy I was talking to on eharmony has a record, with 2 arrests in the past year. I found out as soon as he gave me his email address which contained his first and last name. Long story short, google is free.
 
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fuph wrote :
I just found out 5 minutes ago that a guy I was talking to on eharmony has a record, with 2 arrests in the past year. I found out as soon as he gave me his email address which contained his first and last name. Long story short, google is free.
Please refer to: eHarmony Terms of Service - Online Dating Site and pay special attention to Eligibility, Item C - Criminal History. Also, I recommend reporting this match to matchconcerns@eharmony.com

(personal opinion) I also don't agree that background checks should be a requirement. It is easy enough for a person to find publicly available information regarding arrests and convictions. IMHO it's a 'caveat emptor' sort of situation.
 
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Can you provide a link to the article, MicMan?
 
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