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Here's the scenario. Yesterday I had several e mail exchanges with a man on Match that I seemed to have quite a bit in common with. After the second exchange he expressed interest in meeting this weekend. I responded with my schedule and several suggestions as to where we could meet. Went to bed at 11.30 last night. The last e mail with the suggestions was sent by me. Booted up the computer this morning and got this. What am I missing?

"You did say here that you don't like wasting time and that although you had a lunch date Saturday, you would be interested in getting together Sunday. So, naturally I'm now a little confused. We had a great conversation, I thought, but if something about that conversation made you less inclined to want to seriously consider me for a date this weekend, I'd really appreciate it if you would tell me that. I guess it's about honesty and openness. I f you don't think it will really work between us, just let me know, no harm done. I became very interested in you through our conversation and would like to know if that is or is not a mutual feeling. I'm sure that you understand that it is not pleasant to get your hopes up when the feeling is not corresponded. I hope it is, but do please let me know.
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Did you tell him you had a lunch date on Saturday, but wanted to meet him for a date on Sunday?
 
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So let me get this straight.... because you have a lunch date on Saturday, he interprets this as you not being serious about meeting up? That's a little strange, and a major red flag. If he overreacts about this, he'll be overreacting about everything.
 
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I'm gonna take a reaching stab and say this guy was drinking while engaged in an ongoing exchange of messages w/ you. Unless you've left something out about your earlier exchange, it is that incoherent.
 
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I am stumped! you did say you were available for a weekend date. Sunday is the weekend. I think he's overeacting. and perhaps a bit upset that you won't drop your previously made Saturday lunch and dinner plans to see him instead. sounds a bit like a Klingon to me.
 
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OMG !!!

He is living in a dream world and is already half way in love with you.

I think the right thing to do is beg for forgiveness, and offer to pay for his lunch and make out with him as soon as you see him


Ok, on a serious tone, just ignore further communication. It is just a first meeting planning stages and he is already talking about if it will work between you two ? I think he is a needy, anxious person with some nuttiness thrown in.
 
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Yes, all three. I would also add overly sensitive, jaded, and paranoid to the list. You'd be best served to hit the "close" button...
 
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I am with Rocky on this one! Personally, I never offer up I have another date, just what days and times work for me, but even so, it's dating, and should be understood that dating more than one person until you are in an exclusive relationship is normal. RED FLAG for sure. You told him you are interested in him and wanted to meet and when you are available. If he is going to get "angry" over this without knowing you, I would say you are lucky that he showed his true colors already, and should move on!
 
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smileygirl wrote :
Did you tell him you had a lunch date on Saturday, but wanted to meet him for a date on Sunday?
I told him I had lunch plans on Saturday. Never mentioned "date." I also mentioned I was available on Saturday evening( he was not) and I mentioned Sunday afternoon/evening was open. I left the scheduling up to him.
 
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RockyRaccoon83 wrote :
So let me get this straight.... because you have a lunch date on Saturday, he interprets this as you not being serious about meeting up? That's a little strange, and a major red flag. If he overreacts about this, he'll be overreacting about everything.
Yeah my jaw dropped when I read this this morning.
 
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