Special-K is offline Special-K Post #1  January 27,2012, 11:13am
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dated someone knowing it was going to be short-term? That nothing was ever going to come of it long-term? I don't mean a vacation-type short-term fling. You are attracted to each other, enjoy dating, even interested in moving it forward physically, but both parties know it's not going to lead to a LTR?

I also don't mean that one of you went into it knowing it was short-term while the other had more long-term plans. I mean it's all out on the table.

If you have, how did it work out? Did it end badly or well? How did it finally end?
 
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Yes. It was a blast. The ending was easy going. It worked and was a blast because both of us were on the same page on what this was all about and neither one was playing any pretend it's more games about it. A mutual fling can be nice as long as it's mutual.
 
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Special-K is offline Special-K Post #3  January 27,2012, 11:24am
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How long did it last and how did it finally come to an end? Were you both still seeing/pursuing others?
 
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when I was younger I would have. Not now my time is too valuable to waste it in someone with out a future.
 
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insertscreenname is offline insertscreenname Post #5  January 27,2012, 11:35am
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Yes and no.

I say yes because the situation I had was in university and it was intense and fun and all kinds of awesome and fulfilling. It was all open that it would be temporary. And it eventually ended when she and I knew it was going to end.

I also say no because in the end I wanted more based on some serious misreads on my part. She invited me to spend Christmas with her family, so I thought she was changing the "exit plan" into a "stay together plan". Turned out I was wrong and got a hurt kinda bad. Live and learn!
 
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Special-K wrote :
How long did it last and how did it finally come to an end? Were you both still seeing/pursuing others?
Well a fling by definition is a short lived affair, so it lasted maybe three months. Of course, it can last longer or shorter too. Depends on the people involved and what's going on in their lives.

As for how it came to an end....I don't even remember. I dare say it was just mutual loss of interest in it. Kind of like a spark that burns bright and hot briefly and then it's gone.

As for seeking/pursuing others, I can't speak for him, but when I seek a fling, that's all I'm seeking. I'm not in a dating/relationship mode. So for me, it wasn't so much about seeking others as being free to flirt and move on at will. We did have a mutual understanding though that sleeping with someone else would effectively terminate this fling for various health reasons.

The thing with a fling is that there is a fun, temporary, mutual convenience factor that bypasses all the what are we, why haven't you called me in three days, etc. dating stuff. You get together to have a fabulous date and mind blowing sex and then part company.
 
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Yes, some years ago I spent 6 months in Brazil. Both of us enjoyed each other's company very much, and saw each other every day (and night).

She knew I had to go back to the States, and I knew she could not leave her family, and friends.

But we both enjoyed the moment however long it was.
 
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I've tried but if I'm into someone I want more, if I'm not into them the sex part never lasts more than 2 or 3 times before I feel like I'm about to sleep with my brother in which I case I have promptly ended it.
 
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I've had casual sex with someone once that I knew I wouldn't see again, but I've never tried to start a relationship with someone knowing that there was a definite end in sight. I'm afraid my heart would get too involved way too fast because I do fall for guys pretty quickly.
 
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I have a very hard time (as in as close to impossible w/o going over) getting nekkid w/o being/getting emotionally involved.

I have on only a couple of occasions had sex w/ someone where there was a mutual sexual attraction, but knew we weren't compatible and attempted to force an emotional relationship to justify the sexual relationship, but never what I'm talking about here.

Still trying to figure out if I can do this, enjoy it for what it's worth and however long it's going to last, full-on knowing it's going to have an expiration date.
 
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