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tweet37 is online now tweet37 Post #31  January 27,2012, 10:41am
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My point was that having a profile that is viewed as unique is obviously doing the right thing by attracting the men who would find a unique woman intriguing.
Plus I like big................words.
Maybe it's the breadcrumbs.
 
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I wouldn't read much into their comment either way at such an early stage of things. You are probably one of many they sent the same short note to, to check for a pulse.

If you are interested in their profile, respond with something short, snappy and amusing, to see if they have a brain.

Small word about feeling "different" in a bad way. I'd examine this a bit closer if I were you. The best loves are found when you can be open and unabashed about who you are. This sensitivity to yourself is poison long term. To seize the day, you must seize yourself as well, and be OK with yourself on a level that is not bothered if some fool thinks you're different or "weird."

otoh, I don't know you. I'm speculating. You may be more OK with you than I realize. In which case, ignore the drive-by post from the Internet stranger.

Good luck!
 
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nightling wrote :
I wouldn't read much into their comment either way at such an early stage of things. You are probably one of many they sent the same short note to, to check for a pulse.

If you are interested in their profile, respond with something short, snappy and amusing, to see if they have a brain.

Small word about feeling "different" in a bad way. I'd examine this a bit closer if I were you. The best loves are found when you can be open and unabashed about who you are. This sensitivity to yourself is poison long term. To seize the day, you must seize yourself as well, and be OK with yourself on a level that is not bothered if some fool thinks you're different or "weird."

otoh, I don't know you. I'm speculating. You may be more OK with you than I realize. In which case, ignore the drive-by post from the Internet stranger.

Good luck!
Thanks I've never felt "weird" and I've never had a difficult time getting or keeping a man. I definitely am not afraid to be who I am and with strangers as well. But I do tend to value/discuss things that I think most people don't really think about or care about...I don't feel I am a typical "female" and sometimes wonder how much that comes across in my profile. In any case, I have met some really amazing and interesting accomplished people over the past year so I'm not changin' a thang.
 
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szgorzelski wrote :
They're wanting you to think that they're the kind of guy that likes girls for more than just their looks, so they threw in the "interesting" compliment without actually mentioning what it was that they found interesting.
Absolutely spot on. By social physical standards, EA is a complete knockout. It would be my opinion that the guys saying she is interesting (would not be surprised if couple said "Your very interesting") are just trying to play intellectual (from my interaction, I am thinking she is smart and quite intelligent) / compatible. A truly compatible person will complement (challenge?) you, not just compliment you.
 
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EccentricAmbiguity wrote :
I have had several people email lately with the same phrase somewhere along the lines of "you are very pretty and you sound very interesting". Obviously they wouldnt contact me unless they wanted to get to know me but for some reason the phrase almost seems identical to "you seem a little different as such i will proceed with caution"??

I've also had many men tell me in e-mails that I sound interesting, and all of the relatively few I've met from online said it to me after meeting me in person - some along with comments about my looks, but not all, or not at the same time.

The ones who said it in person always seem to say it kind of slowly, as in "You are a verrry interesting woman..." along with that narrow-eyed, questioning look on their faces, and followed up saying they would like to get to know me better.

Sometimes they seem to mean (or have said) that I'm just very different from any/most of the other women they've met; and the ones I've met in person have commented that I'm far different than they expected me to be based on my photos and profile.

In any case, it has never seemed a negative comment/observation to me, and I think in part may just be due to the fact that we are sometimes communicating with or meeting people online whom we might otherwise never cross paths with; hence, it's likely that we may be very different from most other members of the opposite sex they've known in the context of offline life experience.
 
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