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As some of you know, I do not get many matches to OC, and the ones who do and I meet, I rarely get any subsequent dates.

I have been messaging back and fort with this particular lady, and really like the way she talks, and we seem to be hitting it off (textwise, emails several times a day) and looking forward to a dinner on Friday night,

And guess what, I woke up this morning feeling really really crappy.
After work I went to the pharmacy and obviously it is flu ! Yikes !!! I never ever got flu like in forever ! And I know it lasts a while ... I got a bunch of pills to start to make myself feel better, but, I am not sure if I will be in top shape by then,

Why oy why !!! It will look so wrong if I have to cancel and reschedule it and I was really looking forward to meeting her in person .....

Do you folks thing I will be in good enough shape by Friday evening ?

This was my official whining for the day
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D_Lion is online now D_Lion Post #2  January 25,2012, 5:25pm
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If you wish to reschedule, just be honest and give her a new day. What matters is that the plan is detailed.

So, describe the problem (your symptom and interpreted diagnosis), then the consequence (need to defer the meeting), then the resolution (new meeting plan.)

Hopefully she will trust that your need is real - and appreciate that you are not putting her ast risk of catching something.

I'd doubt you'll be feeling good to meet on Friday, and I would send her an e-mail now with the anticipated need to defer, and a statement about when you will confirm.
 
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Shelby is offline Shelby Post #3  January 25,2012, 9:58pm
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I would rather you tell me that you have the flu and want to reschedule, than to show up when you're still recovering. The likelihood is that you could cause me to get the flu and I would end up angry at you for being so inconsiderate.
 
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I agree with the first two opinions. If you had to reschedule due to being sick, I get it. The only real thing that matters at this point is how we feel when we meet and after we meet and what momentum we carry from that.

So you being sick in this stage of the game is of no matter. How you re-schedule is what is of importance at this point.

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Shelby wrote :
I would rather you tell me that you have the flu and want to reschedule, than to show up when you're still recovering. The likelihood is that you could cause me to get the flu and I would end up angry at you for being so inconsiderate.
Yup, this. I have no problem rescheduling when someone is sick, but I would be seriously annoyed if a guy showed up sick with the flu for the date. I don't need to be catching it and would think he is selfish and inconsiderate of other peoples' well being.

If you explain the situation and have detailed and concrete rescheduling plans, there shouldn't be any problems with it. As I always say, if someone is so jaded and unreasonable that they flip out over something like this, it's good to know and good bye and good riddance.
 
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If I were you, I would reschedule. Just stay in touch so that it doesn't appear as if you have poofed!
 
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I am feeling much better today but not %100 .... I will wait till tonight and then give her a call and explain my situation and reschedule for middle of the next week.

I am starting to doubt that I will be in top shape tomorrow. One big bad sneeze and the night would be ruined. I usually believe that everything happens for a reason, so, I am trying to take it in stride. I had rather we both have an enjoyable date rather then me trying to hide my sneezes, or go to he washroom every 10 minutes because of my sinuses. Shelby's post made something go "click"in my brain

Thanks for the advice folks, you are the best !
 
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Oh, I will make sure of that

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If I were you, I would reschedule. Just stay in touch so that it doesn't appear as if you have poofed!
 
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Texted her and asked to talk on the phone tonight. I think it would be very tacky to tell her that I want to reschedule via a text message. Even though this will be the first time we talk, I prefer saying it in person. I hope it goes well ...
 
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The only downside here is if you haven't even been telling her that you have the flu the last few days, it will seem to come out of nowhere on the phone tonight. Making it seem like as soon as you hear her voice and talk more, then you decide to cancel...

I would be texting this am saying how you have been battling this but still would like to talk tonight. As well as I agree with others, you need to have a day/time/activity already planned to give her as a reschedule and try to firm it up tonight on the phone so that way she knows you aren't blowing her off. Don't just leave it at, "We'll figure it out"...
 
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