harnomygirl is offline harnomygirl Post #41  January 31,2012, 9:50am
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Her reluctance to let you help her must mean something, but I don't have a clue what it is. If I'd wanted to be rude, I'd have stayed snug and warm in the restaurant until you'd cleaned it for me.

I just don't understand women who won't let men help them. I'd let a stranger help me clean my car.
 
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scully98 is offline scully98 Post #42  January 31,2012, 9:59am
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heck yeah! I'm with harnomygirl on that one! I remember my car covered in snow at work once, and me in a skirt and high heels, envious of the guy next to me with his brush to clean his windshield. I had hoped he'd offer to do mine, but he didn't. I had to do my own. darn that workplace equality!
 
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harnomygirl wrote :
I just don't understand women who won't let men help them. I'd let a stranger help me clean my car.
This is interesting and something I had to work on. My knee-jerk reaction would be to refuse help as well because 1, I don't really need it and 2, I don't like to put people out.

But I now know enough to know that 1, refusing somone's offer of help can send message that you don't intend to send (I don't go around beating people over the head with the 'strong black woman' banner and don't need to be mistaken for someone who does) 2, if people really don't want to do something, they probably wouldn't offer and 3, if someone is trying to be nice to you there is no need to refuse them (as long as you aren't taking advantage).
 
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scully98 wrote :
heck yeah! I'm with harnomygirl on that one! I remember my car covered in snow at work once, and me in a skirt and high heels, envious of the guy next to me with his brush to clean his windshield. I had hoped he'd offer to do mine, but he didn't. I had to do my own. darn that workplace equality!
You work with DLion?
 
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Goomph wrote :
You nailed it, I couldn't come up with he right word till now, she was indeed arrogant throughout the whole date ... her demeneaor, the way she talked .... I am "normally" a pretty low key lets just get along type of guy. I was not pleased to say the least on how I was treated.
Don't let it get to you.

I've met plenty like her who come out with the 'ring me' attitude. I think I lacked the assertiveness to respond with something clever like "no, I insist you ring me!" but instead just drove home, laughed and deleted their number.

One of the worst was the one who met me in a pub and after a few minutes let the man at the table next to me (who looked like a nut job and pulled faces behind her back) chat her up while I sat there hearing her life story and discovering all about her - from the conversation she was having with another man!


It can be 10 more or 100 more but somewhere down the line you'll meet someone who you click with.
 
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