Would you date someone with a special needs child?


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Gr8Guyn2008 is offline Gr8Guyn2008 Post #21  January 25,2012, 4:42pm
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Objectively, I would say no, as relationships are hard enough w/o the added responsibility of a child (who will likely always need care) w/ special needs.
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I am a bit perplexed as to what everyone's definition of "special needs" is. I see people talking about schizophrenia and autism as being "special needs". I have a neighbor who is schizophrenic, who I have known since we were young children, and I would not consider him to be particularly needing of special care. He lives alone and takes care of himself.

On the other hand I have some friends who are physically handicapped who need assistance with nearly every aspect of daily life. That to me is "special needs".
 
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Gr8Guy, the school system defines any child who needs anything other than typical classroom services as special needs. It may be anything from speech problems that are pretty minor to very severe mental and/or physical limitations. My kids are considered special needs because of their health issues.

I'm afraid this is going to come out sounding a little hypocritical with my kids' health and special needs. I would go on a date with someone who had special needs kids, but I would need to evaluate for myself how the situation was being handled. Maybe that's because I have my own kids who need 'extra' and I know how much time that can take.
 
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scully98 wrote :
Have you dated someone with a special needs child?
No.

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Would you?
Yes.

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Would the child's age play a role?
No; if a special needs child then I assume age is irrelevant.

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if the parent was a full-time or part-time caregiver?
No, unless being with me changes that. If being with me changes that position and if it betters it, then I only see positive from it. If being with me worsens the situation in some regard then it won't work out but I can't really see that "this" actually worsened it - this being full-time to part-time, how is that possible?

I would assume another income would always better a situation, if just to give more opportunity, otherwise, a situation was not what I thought it to be in the first place.

I should go on record as saying that I believe generally speaking, most down syndrome people are better humans than me...at least in the sense they are more authentic. I strive for authenticity in life and nothing is more authentic than a mentally handicapped person. Love them! They teach me to be a better person.

So despite all the difficulty of day in day out with a special needs person, I will take that over disingenuous any day of the week.

But I am weird that way so take everything I say with a grain of salt.
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Absolutely, but I have more experience working with differently-abled kiddos than the average Jane Doe who is not in that field of service. Our theatre company has a wing that is a performing and visual arts school for special needs children of all ages and ability levels, and my daughter has been teaching dance there for 4 years now. I see first hand the challenges and struggles and dedication; I also see the extra layer of strength and resourcefulness and compassion and capacity for love these parents have aquired through their children. I would imagine these characteristics would carry over into other relationships.
 
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