40 Year Old Former Preacher trying to begin Dating: Help!


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Keith Abramowski is offline Keith Abramowski Post #1  January 24,2012, 11:54am
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I guess I have a strange question needing help.

I'm 40 years old and never really been in a long term relationship. Last time I really dated someone was when I was 23, so as you can see "it's been a while". But my problem is that I've been a preacher for the last 15 years or so and unable to even have a relationship because of my calling. When leading a church, I typically worked 60-70 hours a week (sometimes more) and had maybe one night a week to myself. Plus weekends were usually filled with activites and Sunday morning preparations. Moreover, in the places I've lived in, everyone knew who I was so dating was difficult.

Finally, most of the people I've met who actually wanted to "date the preacher" wanted to be a "pastor's wife" rather than be "with me". They wanted to date the position (my job), not the person (me).

All of this has left me with little time and less opportunity to get out there and date. So for years, I gave up on any idea of dating, marriage, or a family. However, now I'm moving into a new phase of my life and have realized that I truly do want those things. I just don't know how to do them. (I did marital counseling, not dating counseling.)

Does anyone have any suggestions? I've really never tried going up to someone and asking her for a date. So any help would be appreciated.

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Well I am recently divorced and met my ex when I was 24, and i'm now 40, so a lot of people are in a similar (yet not exact) situation where they don't know where to start again with dating after a lengthy time out of the scene, hence EH.

I think others have said it well on these boards that if you do on-line dating, try to also look for people in real-life situations or through friends as well. I am starting to date from the matches i've met on EH, but someone posted a thread earlier about meeting someone at a laundromat. I think the key is to get out and start doing things you enjoy and you will most likely come across like-minded people whom you will meet.

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Seems that your best bet may be eHarmony.

I am having a bit of a problem wrapping my head around "former" preacher. Otherwise I may suggest Christian Mingle.
 
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