AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #1  January 24,2012, 11:01am
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After my laundry trip yesterday I was thinking to myself how much more I like meeting someone in person and being asked out over e-dating sites. In comparison, I definitely like the face-to-face connection more than reading a self made profile.

I barely know this person but definitely feel more connection to him than the last four or five guys I've chatted with online. There is a definite, positive difference.

So... what is your preference? In person? Online? Blind date? Friends setting you up? Something else?
 
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My preference is definitely in person!
 
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Six of one and half a dozen of the other and I don't care which way it starts. In person, you know the physical attraction is definitely there and that seems exciting, but you have no idea if anything else is there. Online, you know you have some things in common, but until you meet, you have no clue if the physical attraction will be there. With either introduction I've had dates that turned out great and dates that were a complete disappointment. The bottom line is that you have to date to find out so you might as well come into it with an open mind and have some fun, regardless of how you were introduced.
 
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In person you'll get the romantic feeling that he saw you and just knew he had to get to know you. Online you'll always wonder if he reasoned the whole thing out before making contact. I can see why different personality types would prefer one over the other. I agree that it shouldn't really matter though.
 
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This is why I try to tell people on the boards new to online dating...to make it just one extra way they meet someone. Don't ever give up meeting people in real life...or being set up...or online....You never know from where that match will come.

That's another reason why I disagree that online is so much different...it's just one more way to get to a first date where the real process of deciding if you are match happens...
 
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I prefer meeting through friends, because then I don't have that dreaded online profile issue to deal with, but if the spark is there from an online meeting, that's okay, too. But when I've met random guys in public, not from online, it hasn't worked out because we turn out to have nothing in common other than attraction toward each other.

I think the odds of it working out when you meet through friends is greater than meeting online because you have references, so to speak, and you often have similar lifestyles/education because they're within your social circle, and you already know you are attracted to each other.

But my experiences meeting people "in the wild" not from online and not through mutual friends has not been good. Met my stalker that way! Seriously. I think the odds of a guy having all of the qualities you're looking for, the right education, the right background, the similar interests, financial status, etc, are much lower if you meet them randomly.
 
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but I wish you luck on your first date, Andie! didn't mean to sound all negative nellie!
 
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I've just had a similar situation recently... I joined EH in October for 3 months, I went on 6 dates and half of them didn't make it to a second one... so I decided to take a break from it.

Last week during a tourism event I met a very attractive man, I asked him out and so far its going well, date no. 2 is on Thursday, so ironically this is working out much more than if we had met online... I will go with I prefer meeting in person on this one...
 
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Since in 59 years I have only had one date that came from an initial in person meeting I can't say much for that method at all. At least I have gotten a few dates via eHarmony over the years.
 
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I'm not sure how I prefer to meet someone... as DF said, perhaps six, one half-dozen the other...

That said, I recently decided to take a little break from the online thing... as in not interested in dating at all... and the funniest thing happened...

While waiting for my boss to arrive to a business lunch last week, a group of guys walked in. I noticed the last of the four was *really* good looking. He smiled as he walked past... I smiled back. Same thing when he left. Didn't think much of it until he returned 20-minutes later (later learned that he dropped his friends back at work and returned to see if I was still there). He waited in the parking lot for me (yes, the creepy factor was decreased by the fact that he was *really* good looking).

Anyway, can't say that I prefer meeting in person to online, but this way was a whole lot more flattering...
 
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