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bibittyboo is offline bibittyboo Post #1  January 23,2012, 11:42am
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I met this guy at the bus stop in early December. He approached me, we talked awhile. He seemed nice and not creepy (like most guys who approach me on the bus). I ran into him again a week later at the same stop. He asked if I wanted to go out for a drink. I gave him my number. He didn't call me until last Monday, more than after giving him my number.

At first I was turned off by this, thinking I won't call him back. Now, I'm changing my mind. Is it too late to return his call?
 
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It's too late to call him back if you fingers have been chopped off by a saw in a construction accident since generating this post. Alternatively, you could use your tongue or toes to dial.
 
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I would call him back but proceed with caution. Someone who back burners me for more than a month doesn't seem too interested. You really have nothing to lose by calling him.
 
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Maybe he couldn't gather the courage to call her for a week ? Not being able to call for a week does not necessarily mean she is a low priority for him, but it sure can be the truth as well. The fact is, if we always assume/guess the worst we will be passing up a ton of opportunities.

Give him a call, see what happens ....If he took a week to call, a week to call back is not a biggie.
 
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Early December is not a week. We are now in mid-late January.

It sounds like (to me, if I'm reading the time line correctly)

They met - one week later phone number given - one month plus phone call made by the guy to her - present day
 
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bibittyboo is offline bibittyboo Post #6  January 23,2012, 12:28pm
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He took a month!

What is really bothering me is I get approached by guys every week but I rarely give out my number because most of them are socially awkward. So when I give out my number, it is a big deal. A month is a long time not to contact someone. right?
 
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Well it has been Christmas and New Years time so he could have been busy. He also could have been nervous about calling you since he is pretty much a complete stranger.

If you are still interested, give him a call back. Good luck.
 
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bibittyboo wrote :
He took a month!

What is really bothering me is I get approached by guys every week but I rarely give out my number because most of them are socially awkward. So when I give out my number, it is a big deal. A month is a long time not to contact someone. right?
Yes, that's right. I guess you can give him a call but, personally, I would not. I find that if a guy likes me, he will call and make a date.
 
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I misread it ... It took him a lot longer than a week to call her. Still I would suggest that she calls him back ...



AndieIsMe wrote :
Early December is not a week. We are now in mid-late January.

It sounds like (to me, if I'm reading the time line correctly)

They met - one week later phone number given - one month plus phone call made by the guy to her - present day
 
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churumbeque is offline churumbeque Post #10  January 23,2012, 2:16pm
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If it wasn't over the holidays I would be more concerned. Call him.
 
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