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Michelle1983 is offline Michelle1983 Post #21  January 23,2012, 11:00pm
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I'd personally call him as well. If it hadn't been December with Christmas and holidays and everything then I wouldn't, but he could have been away or just very busy with family, etc.

If you felt genuinely quite interested in him, I think you'd regret it if you didn't at least try. Being that you may never see him again, the worst is that he says no and you go about your lives.
 
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bibittyboo wrote :
He took a month!

What is really bothering me is I get approached by guys every week but I rarely give out my number because most of them are socially awkward. So when I give out my number, it is a big deal. A month is a long time not to contact someone. right?
You should just call him....

December is difficult to start any new relationship because of the awkward holidays for a new realtionship. Christmas and new years is not somethign for a new relationship. you cant do much together because its too early to meet family and dring those weeks you tend to be very busy visiting family and friends.

He opted to wait till after the holiday craziness was done before calling you.

a few years ago I got to talking to someone on EH in late novemebr about 2 hrs from me but because of the holidays and her crazy work schedule we didnt finally meet face to face until January. A big factor in this was the holiday schedule of doing things.
 
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bibittyboo wrote :

The consensus seems to be not to return his call, which was my initial instinct. I think the main reason I am reconsidering is that I'm bored. So why not just go out with him. It couldn't hurt.
this isnt a popular vote decision.....

this is what you want and how you feel...you seemed to be interested in him.

He may have had a valid reason for not calling you.

This was in mid decemebr when you gave him your phone number so weekends were very difficult to meet over the following few weeks because of christmas and new years falling on weekends so there was more traveling to visit family/friends.

If you are both students..or if he thought you were a student..and thus didnt know where you lived....he probably thought you went back home for a few weeks before the next semester started to see your family and friends back at your hometown. So since school likely has started back up he decided to call you now.
 
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You're bored ...he was bored and called you after a month......Good Luck..
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I think the main reason I am reconsidering is that I'm bored. So why not just go out with him. It couldn't hurt.
 
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But, you always have to think "what if it works" .... be an optimist and make that call already ..... The only think which will happen is, it won't work which is what will happen anyways if you don't call him. So, you won't loose anything ...

I am in an encouraging mood today


P.S. I hear what wiseman2 is saying ... but we have to push our luck sometimes .....

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You're bored ...he was bored and called you after a month......Good Luck..
 
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Here is an update: I called him. We are getting together on Sunday.

And this time... I was the awkward one over the phone!
 
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Fingers and toes crossed !!!

Make sure you have a good time no matter what !

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Here is an update: I called him. We are getting together on Sunday.

And this time... I was the awkward one over the phone!
 
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