Marle is offline Marle Post #1  January 22,2012, 10:57am
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Interesting date this past week. Met a woman on another site before Christmas but had not had a chance to meet in person till now; we met for coffee.

She had declared being divorced on her profile but I had not asked details via email, aside of how long ago. In the course of our date she revealed that she and her "wife" separated 4 years ago but because it was a civil union in another state they were still legally "bound" to each other.

I did not expect that this woman was bisexual or whatever, but it did not bother me. We did discuss sexual orientation at length and we both felt comfortable with the tone/questions asked and details presented/revealed. In the end, we've planned to go out on another date.

Thinking long term. It is important to me that my partner is accepted by my family and friends. Has anyone had a situation with a match/partner where you may have felt that your friends and family may not approve of them? I'm just curious what others may have faced when introducing or revealing such details to their friends/family/coworkers. I know if I keep dating this woman it will come up. She has kids (IVF) so the "wife" is still in the picture.
 
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i_remember is offline i_remember Post #2  January 22,2012, 11:21am
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Nothing to that degree but I've been with women that were with women in the past. Never bothered me then and certainly wouldn't bother me now.

I think if you like her enough this will become a non-issue unless your theology preaches it's an eternal sin and condemn her past to eternal damnation.
 
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Well, "they" don't need to know anything about it for a good, long time. As in, probably not until you decide you want to get married, if that ever happens. So unless your family is extremely right wing when it comes to that sort of thing, I wouldn't sweat it. If they are more middle of the road, just leave it on the back burner & deal with it when it becomes necessary to explain her children. If you do come form an extremely conservative background and if you are looking towards a serious relationship, then this might be a deal breaker. But I hope not.
 
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There are red flags waving on both shores on this one. I can't see anything good coming out of this "match".
 
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