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singinggirl is offline singinggirl Post #21  January 22,2012, 6:58pm
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melvimbe wrote :
As far as 'what should I do now?', nothing. I'm sure he understands that the texting wasn't clear, and you can expect him to be more clear. At the same time, don't be a nag. And do not change plans with friends in order for a date that may or may not happen. If you don't get something firm from him, then go one without him. He has no argument against that, he will learn that he must set firm dates with you, and you won't come off as nagging and over emotional.

If this bothers you too much (sounds like it doesn't), then just stop seeing him. Don't know what you'd hope to accomplish by discussing it. You may need to discuss it more to feel better about it, but he doesn't, he's a guy.
I think Mel has good points in here, especially the bolded parts. As women, we often want to talk things to death; men usually don't. (I know this isn't always the case!) Let it go and move on. I think it will end up being more of a problem if you keep talking about it. In all likelihood, he has already forgotten it.
 
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Just a blip in the radar now. We did meet for dinner last night, and all is well. We both agreed it was probably a case of the dreaded text messages that caused a simple misunderstanding. He understood why I was upset and didn't seem to think twice about it. Carrying on, lol. Thanks for the feedback :-)
 
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Now I understand. If you had plans on Sunday he had plans with someone else on Saturday and got confused on who he was texting. This is typical of someone communtication with a few people at once. You don't get a weekend night but weekend leftovers, keep that in mind.
 
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No "churumbeque" ....that wasn't it at all. He had worked all day Saturday til 7 pm, actually not getting done til more like 8 and by the time he commuted home, and on top of not feeling well (I learned afterwards), he was simply too tired. My problem was in that he waited until the last minute to tell me THAT !
 
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if planning stuff by text continues to be problematic then I'd suggest move to making voice calls for critical planning messages.
 
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No "churumbeque" ....that wasn't it at all. He had worked all day Saturday til 7 pm, actually not getting done til more like 8 and by the time he commuted home, and on top of not feeling well (I learned afterwards), he was simply too tired. My problem was in that he waited until the last minute to tell me THAT !
Just because that is what he told you does not make it so. Just keep your eyes open as it is common for peopel communicating with multiple people to send the wrong message to the wrong person.
 
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Alli824 wrote :
Yet another good reason to never put off other plans for a possible date. Continue on with your life, and please just pick up the phone now and call the man. You've said your piece no need to address the issue again or you will come across as nagging and shrill.
Exactly this. I agree with Alli. Don't ever change/put off other plans for a date.

And don't bring it up again. Issue is over.
 
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