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Ingytravel is offline Ingytravel Post #21  January 22,2012, 9:18am
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Almost all texts have been of the date invitation variety. I don't enjoy texting but she does seem to prefer it judging by lack of response to VM. Will text her today asking her to call me so we can talk. If she doesn't reply then I'll know. Oddly enough I'm out on a business trip to Ireland next week so I really am going to be busy!
So you keep asking her out and she keeps saying no?

I think completely ignoring you for 2 weeks....not a single text, email or call does not bode well at all for her interest in you...

And why in the world would you text her and tell her to call you? Can you not pick up the phone and call her?

I'm sorry to say but you sound very passive in the way you are approaching this. As well as being ok with being at the bottom of someone's 'to do' list and dating priority..
 
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I actually agree with this post. As a woman, if I had been on several dates with a guy, and didnt respond to his text, phone calls, emails its because I am not 100% interested. No one is that busy where it takes them two weeks to respond to any sort of communication attempt and only replied back because you emailed her again.

If you really like her that much, I would say go have coffee. Do not waste your money on dinner. If she bails after that, move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

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Actually, satisfaction brought it back (the cat that is).

Anyways, if this woman was really interested in you after a couple meetings she'd respond quickly either email or text or phone saying that such and such is going on with work or family or etc but she wouldn't take 2 weeks to get back to you.

Most likely, she was seeing another guy and thought it was going to work out, and was keeping you on the back burner in case it didn't, which I would wager is the case.

If you're *REALLY* interested in her then meet up,but go for the coffee not the dinner. If she poofs again you won't be wasting your time/money on her.
 
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OuterSpaceAlien wrote :
Almost all texts have been of the date invitation variety. I don't enjoy texting but she does seem to prefer it judging by lack of response to VM. Will text her today asking her to call me so we can talk. If she doesn't reply then I'll know. Oddly enough I'm out on a business trip to Ireland next week so I really am going to be busy!
Thanks for clarifying. Coffee maybe, but she has already shown you who she is. I would proceed with caution. Good luck and keep us posted!
 
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Ingytravel wrote :
So you keep asking her out and she keeps saying no?

I think completely ignoring you for 2 weeks....not a single text, email or call does not bode well at all for her interest in you...

And why in the world would you text her and tell her to call you? Can you not pick up the phone and call her?

I'm sorry to say but you sound very passive in the way you are approaching this. As well as being ok with being at the bottom of someone's 'to do' list and dating priority..
Heh! She never replied can't to the dates that never happened. She just didn't respond to them. Dang! I probably made it easy for her to ignore the texts by texting 'if you can't make it that's fine'. Doh! And doh again.

As for calling texting gets a better response. I have left a VM in the past but never got a call back. Like I've mentioned in another post I'm curious about the explanation.

As for being passive. I don't think so. I've done a lot of the initiating. But yes I am still learning and making mistakes. I like to give people a fair shake but yeah this one might not end well.
 
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Heh! She never replied can't to the dates that never happened. She just didn't respond to them. Dang! I probably made it easy for her to ignore the texts by texting 'if you can't make it that's fine'. Doh! And doh again.

As for calling texting gets a better response. I have left a VM in the past but never got a call back. Like I've mentioned in another post I'm curious about the explanation.

As for being passive. I don't think so. I've done a lot of the initiating. But yes I am still learning and making mistakes. I like to give people a fair shake but yeah this one might not end well.
By passive...I mean the part about not making it known that you are requesting to go on a date this Saturday at 7pm....If she does not respond....then be done with it....move on...Be direct and request directness back to you.

As well there is a huge difference between "giving someone a fair shake"....and letting a woman keep blowing you off....be disrespectful enough to not even speak to you for 2 weeks...and yet you still have interest and keep texting, calling, and hoping she will give you the time of day...

That is being a doormat I'm sorry to say.

Learn to like yourself enough that if someone can't even bother with planning a date or even take 30 seconds to send you a text....they are telling you that they are not interested. It's perfectly fine to wish them well and move on to someone who is actually excited to go out with you...
 
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MileHighArtist wrote :
That's funny cause the woman I'm dating is going to college and working full time and we still manage to keep in touch. The original poster said nothing about his match being in grad school, and I based it on the facts he presented which were minimal at best. But thanks for singling me out to make your point.
Jeez... guess I did sort of single you out. That wasn't my intention... my bad.

All I was saying is that they've only gone out a couple of times, and there is no telling what might be going on in her life that distracted her from pursuing this new relationship. I guess I mentioned the work/school thing because between those two I'm spending about 100 hours a week busy doing something... so it's sort of on my mind. I'm projecting. =]

It's probably worth his time to at least hear her out and see what the actual situation is. If, that is, he really likes her.
 
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I would accept the invite for coffee, I wouldn't arrange 'dinner' until I'd worked out she was worth the effort.
 
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