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livinagin is offline livinagin Post #21  January 21,2012, 3:41am
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No one said one has to be like everyone else, though you are the one that brought up conforming to the rest of the society.

One also can be unique and different and still be acceptable to the society as a whole. Yo-Yo-Ma is different and unique, and so is Ted Kaczynski. One is acceptable to the society and the other is not.
'Frayed I'm gonna' have to agree with Tango on this one. He's not referring to creating a false self, but rather, a better self. You are not changing to create a facade, simply becoming more acceptable. Because THAT is what you want -- to be accepted. If you are not willing to evolve to be a better person; if you simply tell yourself it's them, not me; if you rationalize or excuse, you're probably going to be watching movies alone.
 
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Part of the sales pitch of guru quacks is precisely to make you feel like an outcast and that you are missing out on something...

This is to inspire sales of their programs, seminars, books, etc....It is supposed to make the listener feel like a loser, which of course, can be resolved by buying into the purported "secrets" of the product.

They are snake oil salesman who must invent the diseases to sell the cure....it happens all the time.

Back to the question...everyone feels unique in their own way, and not entirely understood or totally in step with the crowd. That's just the way it is........Think for yourself ditch the book barkers and use uniqueness as your edge, not a fault....Good Luck...
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livinagin wrote :
'Frayed I'm gonna' have to agree with Tango on this one. He's not referring to creating a false self, but rather, a better self. You are not changing to create a facade, simply becoming more acceptable. Because THAT is what you want -- to be accepted. If you are not willing to evolve to be a better person; if you simply tell yourself it's them, not me; if you rationalize or excuse, you're probably going to be watching movies alone.

This. Well said.
 
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Its all perception. If everyone were the same and if everyone fit in there would never be change, or revolution, no leaders. Although it may be more difficult, you need to find a way to surround yourself with like-minded individuals. Even if that means you move. Even if that means you risk rejection. The only two things you need to concern yourself with are ensuring that you are a good person and that you treat others well. If you are not already doing those two things, then yes, you need to change. Other than that, stop focusing on why you don't fit into the conventional because if you don't at this point that won't change. But there are some amazing niches and communities that you would mostl likely find a place in where in fact there are people who think outside the box just as you do. At that point you will probably realize that being "normal" was never what you wanted in the first place.
 
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