Tabouleh is offline Tabouleh Post #41  January 18,2012, 9:03pm
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I feel talking every day is important in a relationship. I'd text him or just start calling him and see how he takes it. If you like someone enough you want to communicate with them daily imo.
 
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It is better just to lead by calling once a day or sending a couple texts a day.

Whining about "I need / want you to" comes off as needy / clingy, particularly when you are not leading by example.

When you just have the courage /confidence to lead the style with your own actions /initiative...it sends a much better message.
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The "why don't you call/text/email me more" conversation seldom goes well.
 
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Tabouleh wrote :
I feel talking every day is important in a relationship. I'd text him or just start calling him and see how he takes it. If you like someone enough you want to communicate with them daily imo.
I 100% agree. Relationships where the primary form of communication is emailing/texting is too cold for me. Maybe I am a bit high maintenance, but I love hearing my boyfriend's voice and his laughter. Phone conversations are vital for any sort of long distance. Now, if he was in town and we were seeing each other a few times a week, I would ease up on the desire for wanting so much phone time.
 
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It's gotten better this week! A bit of texting one evening and a "how are you doing?" phone call. Baby steps. We'll see how things progress.
 
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Christine_ is offline Christine_ Post #45  January 21,2012, 7:25pm
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Lots of people are non-callers these days, but they text. If it's still platonic dating, then it's somewhat acceptable that there is no between-date communication. Not terribly encouraging... but acceptable. It's just casual, get-to-know-you dating and he could be taking it slow. But if you've shared some deeper level of physical intimacy (beyond kissing), then it's not a good sign.
 
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Christine_ wrote :
Lots of people are non-callers these days, but they text. If it's still platonic dating, then it's somewhat acceptable that there is no between-date communication. Not terribly encouraging... but acceptable. It's just casual, get-to-know-you dating and he could be taking it slow. But if you've shared some deeper level of physical intimacy (beyond kissing), then it's not a good sign.
I find it interesting that you view level of physical intimacy as tied directly to seriousness of relationship. It's pretty common for people to engage in intimacy "beyond kissing" while doing "casual, get-to-know-you dating".
 
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I find it interesting that you view level of physical intimacy as tied directly to seriousness of relationship. It's pretty common for people to engage in intimacy "beyond kissing" while doing "casual, get-to-know-you dating".
I think this is one of those places where men & women often see things differently.
 
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