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I'm just stating that anyone...if they never offer to plan and/pay for dates...would be considered a 'taker'....
I do think there has to be balance in the give and take in any relationship. I don't think there has to be balance in every aspect of the relationship. If she's a 'taker' when it comes to paying, but, a 'giver' when it comes to cookies, I'm still happy.
 
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So then the question is, what did I do wrong? She said how great the dinner was and seemed to be enjoying herself. I don't get it at all.
Don't think you did anything wrong man. She was more than likely already talking to another guy that was farther along than you were with her. It happens. I think the hardest part I had to figure out with the whole "online dating" thing was that to always remember that the other person across the table from you quite possibly went out with a guy yesterday, and is going out with a guy tomorrow that is not you. Knowing this possible fact should not deter you from putting yourself out there!

I'll say this, women definitely have the upper hand in that...well...if they are seeing a lot of guys, they are getting a lot of free meals. Oh, and I don't believe in that "I paid the price of the meal to look this good for the date" argument. That is just asinine!

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Don't think you did anything wrong man. She was more than likely already talking to another guy that was farther along than you were with her. It happens. I think the hardest part I had to figure out with the whole "online dating" thing was that to always remember that the other person across the table from you quite possibly went out with a guy yesterday, and is going out with a guy tomorrow that is not you. Knowing this possible fact should not deter you from putting yourself out there!

I'll say this, women definitely have the upper hand in that...well...if they are seeing a lot of guys, they are getting a lot of free meals. Oh, and I don't believe in that "I paid the price of the meal to look this good for the date" argument. That is just asinine!

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Great points. I agree with all of them.
 
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Damn. Before reading this this thread I was thinking maybe I'm making a mistake on the second date to invite a "potential" to my place to cook for her. Read the OP's first post and I'm thinking I'm not alone, maybe I'm doing the right thing, and then I read your post and I'm thinking again I may be doing it wrong. It's the second date and I figure a nice dinner at my place would be nice. Now I have to worry about what she will be thinking about all of my shoes, and my crazy clean apartment...

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Exactly! I invited another woman over for dinner tonight who I had a first date with yesterday. That was a no go. We're going out to eat instead. I'm concluding 2nd date is too soon based on the last couple of weeks. The only reason I tried it again is because I had an incredible connection with this woman yesterday and she likes how straightforward I am and that I don't play games. She's comfortable with me, but I think worried what her girlfriends woill say. Thats fine, I can wait if I have to. If I were you, I'd wait until the 3rd date or even the 4th. Thats my new method.
 
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