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churumbeque is offline churumbeque Post #1  January 13,2012, 7:35am
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My accountant has a client that he thought we might get along with each other. 5 years ago he called me but I was not available when he was so I never heard from him again. I decided to call him yesterday and he remembered me and was happy to hear from me. He was to call me today so we could set something up to get together later today.

We just had a simple 2 minute chat about our work schedules. About a half hour after we got off the phone he started sending me messages asking if I wanted to just get laid? If so that was ok with him.
I sent a text back saying "forget I called and I was sorry if I gave him the wrong impression"
He then said he likes sex and likes to be open with whom he is dating.
I responded that I don't sleep around and we may not even have any chemistry so a bit premature for me.

Anyway I was dumbfounded that someone would behave like that with someone they haven't even seen a picture of. I think someone like this probably has a sex addiction and can't control them selves. Anyway just couldn't believe people really are like this openly.
 
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Yes. It happens all the time. And, you can't tell that they are like this right away. Which is why when I meet someone online and they want to meet right away, I don't do it without a few emails, followed by a phone call.

Example: A Chicago police detective wanted to meet. We were talking on the phone for the first time and I said I could stop by his co-ed softball game after work and we could go from there. He said why don't you just come over to my apartment in the south loop and have sex.

I do wonder why some men are like this and what happened to their filter...but, I just say no thank you and move on.
 
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They may just be trying to be funny or seeing what they can get away with...Either way...if you haven't even met yet...it's seeing if you're game for a hook-up.....Sometimes when women come on very strong...it can give the impression that a hook-up it mutually desired.
 
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Seeing as it was FIVE years since the last time you talked to him, he probably was just thinking you were wanting to "have fun". I know if some guy I hadn't talked to in 5 years called me, I would probably assume it was just for a hookup.
 
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Chalk this guy up to just being a jerk, then delete his number and ignore anymore communication from him.

There are plenty of decent guys out there.
 
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eharmonyjc wrote :
Seeing as it was FIVE years since the last time you talked to him, he probably was just thinking you were wanting to "have fun". I know if some guy I hadn't talked to in 5 years called me, I would probably assume it was just for a hookup.
^This. Kind of can't blame him for thinking you are just hard up for a hook up. In his shoes, that's precisely what I would think myself if someone suddenly called me out of the blue 5 years down road looking to get together.
 
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eharmonyjc wrote :
Seeing as it was FIVE years since the last time you talked to him, he probably was just thinking you were wanting to "have fun". I know if some guy I hadn't talked to in 5 years called me, I would probably assume it was just for a hookup.
From the OP's original post she said that 5 years ago she was not available. I would have assumed that she was in a relationship back then which did not workout and she is now back "on the market" looking for her "the one"

From now on if any women from my past should contact me I will assume that they are just wondering if I can still get it up and want to hop into my bed
 
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churumbeque wrote :
My accountant has a client that he thought we might get along with each other. I decided to call him yesterday and he remembered me and was happy to hear from me.

We just had a simple 2 minute chat about our work schedules. About a half hour after we got off the phone he started sending me messages asking if I wanted to just get laid? If so that was ok with him.

I responded that I don't sleep around and we may not even have any chemistry so a bit premature for me.

Anyway I was dumbfounded that someone would behave like that with someone they haven't even seen a picture of. I think someone like this probably has a sex addiction and can't control them selves. Anyway just couldn't believe people really are like this openly.
A sex addiction? I'd wager the opposite. Folks I've met who acted similar to that had a hard time getting laid and didn't know the "game" or "dance" you play to get a willing woman into bed within a few dates. They might see announcing that they're open to something casual (in addition to something long-term) is just "being honest", which of course many dating articles encourage. About the sight unseen bit, a guy who hasn't been laid for a long time may not have stellar standards for a one-night stand. It may have been enough to know you weren't morbidly obese, which either the accountant or something you said on the phone may have convincd him. I'd just fault him for being socially inept.
 
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