a picture is worth.....

Ok guys, so my female friend at work set me up with one of her hot friends after showing me a couple of pics on her iphone. I thought she was hot so, whatever, why not? Based on that pic, I'd definitely kiss her,. I call her, send a pic of myself and texts back saying I was cute,. We talk/text for a bit, lots of laughing, humour, etc..

So we meet up and she's even hotter than the pic..but..something just isn't quite right..and I can't tell what it is. From the first minute we met, we just knew that we weren't each other's type; was a good date nevertheless.

The thing is, I still don't know what happened. We make such a big deal about pics on these dating sites, but in my experiences they haven't been worth anything!! I mean, how can someone be hotter than a pic and still not be appealing to me in some way? I've been thinking now that a pic really isn't worth much if anything after all. There still needs to be that "something"..they way they move, talk, walk, the things they say, etc. The problem is that from a 2-d pic, we tend to "fill in the gaps" in our mind to complete the picture of the person and we inevitably get it WRONG once you meet and that throws me off so even though the person is hotter, that fact that I was thrown off seem to kill it for me.

I'm at a point now where I doubt I'll put much emphasis on a pic..as long as there's nothing blatantly wrong (missing teeth, overly obese, generally unhealthy/lack of hygiene, etc), I'm game for meeting, pic or no pic!!! Is it so inconceivable that chemistry could develop without a pic? I'm willing to find out.

Thoughts?

My thoughts are that I wish more guys were like you!

My thoughts are that maybe the OP should have experimented more with his sexuality while in college...

Is it so inconceivable that chemistry could develop without a pic? I'm willing to find out.

Thoughts?

Pictures do not tell the whole story about someone, they're just the first chapter. I know I look at pictures first. If I like the pictures even a little bit, I then read the rest of their profile. If I like what I read, then I will communicate with them. So, it's not JUST about photos, at least not for me, but the photos are what creates the initial interest. I've had 'hot' guys message me that sound completely lame in their profile, so I don't write back to them.

However, one time, I started communicating with a guy in a Chicago chat room (this was in 2003 back when chat rooms on AOL were still a thing to do) a few months before I was moving there. He did not have any photos, this was before the days of camera phones etc. Anyway, we talked for those months via IM and then phone and I really was falling for him. The day after I arrived in town we met. He wasn't a great looking guy, not someone I would have been attracted to normally anyway, but I was so nuts about him I didn't care, and we dated for awhile. He was a super sweet guy and we had a lot in common and similar sense of humor But, turns out he was a functioning alcoholic and had depression issues, but that's another story. I kept in touch with him up until a year ago and even at that point, 6 years after meeting him initially, I still wanted to jump his bones when I saw him. It was very disappointing he was kind of a mess.

Point is though, yes, chemistry can develop without photos. But in this day and age where pictures are readily available and easy to get, why would you want to risk being completely repulsed by someone?