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falseDimitri is offline falseDimitri Post #1  January 12,2012, 5:34am
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So I met a woman on eH, first date not even 2 weeks ago, and things are going great. We've seen each other 5 times, all indications are we are falling in love. Last time, the kissing started getting intense, but then she pulled back saying she wasn't quite ready for sex yet. Since she hasn't been with anyone since her divorce 5 years ago and given the short time we have known each other, I could understand, so not a big deal (though a little frustrating at that moment).

Then this morning she emails me a poem. Its a lovely poem, about sleeping together (not sex, actual sleeping, spooning) and how that feels.

To me, this is torture. I don't think she understands the male libido. Ladies, help me out, what is she thinking?
 
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it's exactly what she said. she's not ready for sex yet. but she wants you to know she likes you (hence the poem.)

someone who hasn't slept with anyone else since their divorce five years ago isn't going to jump into bed quickly with someone they met not even quite two weeks ago. it's too soon for her. as she told you.
 
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She was married so I'd imagine she knows more about the male libido than you are giving her credit for at this time.

If this continues (meaning your advances are constantly met with rejection) are you going to poof or have the conversation about what her hold up is?
 
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"Falling in love" or throbbing for a roll?
falseDimitri wrote :
We've seen each other 5 times, all indications are we are falling in love.
I don't think she understands the male libido.
That's your job....
 
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Where the heck is shapeShifter79 when you need him? I heard he might be able to remedy this whole sex thing.
 
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scully98 wrote :
it's exactly what she said. she's not ready for sex yet. but she wants you to know she likes you (hence the poem.)

someone who hasn't slept with anyone else since their divorce five years ago isn't going to jump into bed quickly with someone they met not even quite two weeks ago. it's too soon for her. as she told you.
Except me...LOL...

My five years of post divorce contemplation had nothing to do with my desire for sex! My last guy reaped the benefits of that five year wait

OP...Along with the sex issue...I would be careful with this whole 'indications we are falling love' after 2 weeks.......

I don't see two weeks of dating as being that long for a woman to wait to get to know someone before having sex...So it's whether you are willing to wait for her or not..That is certainly your choice..

The key is whether she is wanting to wait a another few weeks, or many months down the road.

And for you to be the first person she is dating since her divorce, this could easily be just a transition type of relationship where she wants to get used to dating again..

Trying to rush everything with talking about love so soon...and wanting to pressure her for sex..will probably have the opposite effect on this woman.

So...your two choices are being patient and actually enjoy the dating process for a bit...or end things and go find someone who wants to have sex immediately upon meeting you...

Good luck...
 
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She may be dating other guys....so doesn't want to be exclusive...or just isn't that into you. She may want to be in a relationship before you head for her pants, that's why the poem....She seems to more about male libidos than you do about women...

You may do better with someone a little more ready to roll early on...or who is more into you.....Good Luck...
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So I met a woman on eH, first date not even 2 weeks ago

Then this morning she emails me a poem.about sleeping together (not sex, actual sleeping, spooning) and how that feels.
 
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Remember that a woman who chooses not to have sex may just be choosing not to have sex with YOU.

And I can't help ya with the whole 'five year' thing, that's crazy talk. I would have some concerns about her libido, myself.
 
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Remember that a woman who chooses not to have sex may just be choosing not to have sex with YOU.

And I can't help ya with the whole 'five year' thing, that's crazy talk. I would have some concerns about her libido, myself.
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Yeah, I'm having a hard time with the five year thing. Did she say who ended the last relationship and why? Cuz that would give us some information that would tell us ALL something!
 
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